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Long-Distance Relationships Coping with geographical distance can make or break a LDR. Share your experiences and questions here.

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Old 2nd November 2017, 1:22 PM   #16
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Then break up with him. If he continually makes plans but fails to follow through, your relationship may be based on lies. In that instance somebody is holding you back -- HIM.
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Old 2nd November 2017, 1:28 PM   #17
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Then break up with him. If he continually makes plans but fails to follow through, your relationship may be based on lies. In that instance somebody is holding you back -- HIM.
Thanks for the advice that is very try,and Im so tired of getting used every guy I have had in my life has just used me.
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Old 2nd November 2017, 1:31 PM   #18
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As you are healing from this break up see if you can identify any patterns with all these guys you say used you. Then avoid those types in your next relationship. Do consider dating locally to avoid all the headaches that come with an LDR
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Old 2nd November 2017, 1:33 PM   #19
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As you are healing from this break up see if you can identify any patterns with all these guys you say used you. Then avoid those types in your next relationship. Do consider dating locally to avoid all the headaches that come with an LDR
I agree thanks
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Old 12th November 2017, 2:24 AM   #20
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Well,funny you say that. l know it makes no sense , but l have a real thing for long distance relationships now.

l should be lunging at as much real life as l can get but l dunno , somehow we had other things instead , and it was just surreal , loved it. Yet of course we craved more real too.

But then l do love different , and this was very very different and it was intense.
l'd go there again , right girl.
l know ,l must be mad.
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Old 1st December 2017, 6:40 PM   #21
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Taken?

Is it possible he's either married or has another girlfriend? Don't me to sound discouraging.
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Old 1st December 2017, 6:47 PM   #22
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Can't speak for other guys but when I was doing the LDR thing, whether intercontinental or with my wife to be some 60 miles away, nothing kept me from being with the woman I loved. Sure, gotta make a living and deal with life's stuff but they were a priority and my actions reflected it. However! The lesson I learned in all that was to watch for them making me a similar priority. Harsh lessons in that regard. I learned the definitition of what it meant to let someone love you. Great life lesson and those who taught it I thank them. I just smiled as I got a text from one of the teachers not more than a few minutes ago. Gave her ten years of my life. She taught me some of the best lessons.

Good luck with yours. LDR's are tough even under the best and most loving of circumstances.
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Old 2nd December 2017, 5:03 AM   #23
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He tells me he wants to come and see me then he doesn't show up it's not right at all.
Yeah sorry butterfly , to begin with l thought you were meaning it in a different way in the original.
But nah , with what your sayin here somethings not sounding right.

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