snowoman Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 Hi, I am 3 years older than the guy, and we are in different continents. We never met each other. Had 3 phone conversations. I like him, want something serious. He wants me to go there and hunt for job, cant go visa issue. How to move ahead and what do i ask/tell him? Please advise. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 My advise would be pick somebody closer to home You can't base a relationship on 3 phone conversations. It not real until you meet in person. The minute you have to get the government involved with visas & the like it's more trouble then it's worth & probably won't work. Just being realistic here If you are insistent on meeting him ask him if he would like you to try for a visa so you can meet. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 Are you saying you are ready to move continents for a man you have spoken on the phone with three times?!? I would advise you that is an irrational, unwise, extremely risky, and unsafe thing to do. Surely there is someone on your Continent, or your region, or your town you can connect with. This idea is extremely foolsih. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 Let me put it to you this way; There countless relationships where couples living in the same city, even in the same house who can NOT make it work. What makes you think flying across the world to start a new life with someone you only chatted to 3 times will end in a happily-ever-after? The odds are stacked against you my friend, big time. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 I am 3 years older than the guy And how old is he? Had 3 phone conversations Well, I'm at loss for words about this. At times, one talk is enough to want to know a guy more... but this happened over the phone with someone you know nothing about, which should be enough for you to be cautious. I like him, want something serious Interesting... but it takes two for everything. And as of now, you can only be sure about yourself not about what he wants (especially before even seeing you in person). He wants me to go there and hunt for job, cant go visa issue So, did I get it fine? You can't get a visa due to some issue? What is the issue? And did you tell him there's no way you can get a visa to get to his country? what do i ask/tell him? Ask him: would you be ready to move here for good? See what he says. If his answer is something like "no way!", then you have your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted January 31, 2017 Share Posted January 31, 2017 I think before you think about uprooting your life for someone you should at least do a few face-to-face meets... Link to post Share on other sites
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