LeninaCrowne Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 (edited) 11111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111 Edited January 30, 2013 by LeninaCrowne Link to post Share on other sites
amayana Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Hello and welcome to the forum Your story doesn’t sound that unbelievable to me, it simply shows me that you travel a lot and like meeting new people and trust me, there’s nothing wrong with that! Well, this is how I see this whole thing. You may beg to differ. So you broke up with that boyfriend of yours this past July and you were together for 2 years. You also mention that it was an extremely difficult break-up. The reason of the break-up, you say, was him not being able to cope with your desire for freedom, which is fair enough. However, I wonder why you want to jump into this LDR with this German guy. Are you really sure you are in love with him? Or are you more in love with the fact that you’d be in a LDR, thus would have the freedom to travel as much as you want, do what you want, things like that… Because that would explain your great interest in this Finnish guy too. Also, are you sure that you’re not simply looking for someone to fill your ex-boyfriend’s spot (without restricting your freedom)? To me it seems that you haven’t yet been able to let go off him completely, which is OK and perfectly normal. However, it wouldn't be a good idea then to jump into the next relationship, especially a LDR. I think this German guy is aware of that and wants to take things slowly. I give him kudos for that. I understand that you would want to know if he is ever going to fall in love with you but that’s not how things work, you can’t really know from the first few times you've seen each other. Especially, since you’re apart from each other it will take more time for both of you to find out if you actually want to have a serious relationship (serious as in long-term). It could be that you might lose interest in him at some point or the other way around. In a way an LDR would be able to reveal this quickly. So I guess if you want you can just take the risk and see how things go. You'd find out soon enough if you're both into this for the long haul. But to me it seems you should enjoy your single life for a little while longer since your break-up is quite recent and why not live a little and date around. Link to post Share on other sites
Arnissa_N Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 11111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111 Ones and lots of ones? Link to post Share on other sites
Arnissa_N Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Hello and welcome to the forum Your story doesn’t sound that unbelievable to me, it simply shows me that you travel a lot and like meeting new people and trust me, there’s nothing wrong with that! Well, this is how I see this whole thing. You may beg to differ. So you broke up with that boyfriend of yours this past July and you were together for 2 years. You also mention that it was an extremely difficult break-up. The reason of the break-up, you say, was him not being able to cope with your desire for freedom, which is fair enough. However, I wonder why you want to jump into this LDR with this German guy. Are you really sure you are in love with him? Or are you more in love with the fact that you’d be in a LDR, thus would have the freedom to travel as much as you want, do what you want, things like that… Because that would explain your great interest in this Finnish guy too. Also, are you sure that you’re not simply looking for someone to fill your ex-boyfriend’s spot (without restricting your freedom)? To me it seems that you haven’t yet been able to let go off him completely, which is OK and perfectly normal. However, it wouldn't be a good idea then to jump into the next relationship, especially a LDR. I think this German guy is aware of that and wants to take things slowly. I give him kudos for that. I understand that you would want to know if he is ever going to fall in love with you but that’s not how things work, you can’t really know from the first few times you've seen each other. Especially, since you’re apart from each other it will take more time for both of you to find out if you actually want to have a serious relationship (serious as in long-term). It could be that you might lose interest in him at some point or the other way around. In a way an LDR would be able to reveal this quickly. So I guess if you want you can just take the risk and see how things go. You'd find out soon enough if you're both into this for the long haul. But to me it seems you should enjoy your single life for a little while longer since your break-up is quite recent and why not live a little and date around. Hi Amayana, Your reply is to what? Link to post Share on other sites
amayana Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 She edited her post, must have changed her mind about getting advice or just extremely impatient. Link to post Share on other sites
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