pinkpandaz Posted January 27, 2013 Share Posted January 27, 2013 We've been dating for about 2 years, but we met in person for the first time on December 26th. I've always had trust issues...so we often fought about that. Now that I think about it now, I had no reason to not trust him. I should've known that he'd get tired of it eventually. I went to visit him from December 26th (we made the day we met our anniversary) to the 20th. Which is when we broke up. We got into a stupid "fight" the night before I left. Later when I arrived home we messaged eachother for a bit and he said "I wouldn't even mind if you broke up with me right now." But then it got to him just saying he's done, basically. I begged him for another chance for me to change. it led to him saying he wanted us to spend time alone (with the intent of making changes himself). I asked him things like "do you want to continue a relationship with me?" he said "I'll want it if you change." or I said something like "so...we broke up for change." he said "I'll hope so." When he contacted me another day I asked if he still had feelings for me. He said he does, which is why he didn't break up with me on harsher terms. I felt a little bit better. When he messaged me earlier today, I ended up asking him if we was gonna date other people. He said "I doubt it." I asked him why, and he said it was because he isn't going to ever confess his feelings to anyone ever again. (I was the first to confess to him btw). So I asked...what if someone confessed to you? This is what he said: "I hate to be the bad guy since I've had my fair share of rejections. If that ever was to happen, I'll tell them to be my friend first." Other things he's said in our conversations: "I've broken up with you. Stop looking for assurance." "I don't want to be in a relationship with you to be happy. I want both parties to already be happy, and share it in a relationship. Which is why my main focus is to rebuild my independence and find my own happiness." Sorry about all the I said this he said that. I'm just having a hard time absorbing everything. I really feel like we will get back together. I just don't know when. Has anyone dealt with anything similar to this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hal_TX Posted January 27, 2013 Share Posted January 27, 2013 just curious how you could be dating for 2 years when you never met? How is that dating? So you finally met and ended up getting in an argument that was bad enough to break off the relationship over. That doesn't sound like a very good start. When you met was he what you expected? What was the argument over and who instigated it? How far away do you live from each other? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinkpandaz Posted January 27, 2013 Author Share Posted January 27, 2013 oops sorry, we met 12/26/2011 he lives in vancouver, I live in Arizona. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinkpandaz Posted January 27, 2013 Author Share Posted January 27, 2013 Well when I saw a bunch of porn on his laptop, I was kind of offended. Only because he has videos and pictures of me. I don't mind if he watches a little bit occasionally, because he said he has before to get some new ideas for us. Which is fine with me. But he said it was his brothers when they were sharing computers. I basically kept insisting it was his and he got really annoyed. That's the problem with me. When he tells me things I just keep at it. When I should just believe him and stop. Link to post Share on other sites
Mtlgrrl Posted January 29, 2013 Share Posted January 29, 2013 How old are you? Let him be for now. I do find the break up issue kinda childish. You've been together 2 years and that's enough for him to break it off? wow. Like I said, let him be. Link to post Share on other sites
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