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Aquantaince's girlfriend was cheating on him with me. Should I tell him ?


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Old 29th September 2017, 4:35 AM   #1
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Aquantaince's girlfriend was cheating on him with me. Should I tell him ?

My friend's girlfriend was cheating on him with for 2 months. They had kept their relationship a secret from everyone and have only made it official now. The fling was the girl's idea and whenever I asked her about her equation with the guy she would lie and tell me that they were just friends. I did not wish to get involved with her if they were anything more than friends as it turns out they were. The guy and I are not close friends but still friends.I met her through him since they were always together.

She lied to me about their relationship status deliberately in order to get in my pants. I fell for her thinking we were exclusive but she was lying to me all along. She has hidden this from her guy as well.

The worst thing is that she did all this with me at his place in his bed behind his back. In fact one day she did stuff with me while he was sleeping on a bed passed out drunk right next to her. she even asked me to **** her right there but i refused. We would even hang out behind his back.

One day an incident took place and i found out they were still sexually involved, after that we kind of stopped talking to each other. But recently i found out that they were unofficially dating at the time and have just recently made it official.

I am in a dilemma. The guy is very serious about her and I believe he has the right to make an informed choice, something that this girl robbed me off by lying about her relationship with this guy. She is a very treacherous woman. I have never even received an apology from her. She doesn't talk to me and is kind of scared to even look me in the eye now. When i get even close to that guy, she gets scared. she cant go scot free after what she has done with both of us.

What should i do ? Should i tell him ? he has the right to make an informed choice about her. I need to get this off my chest but I am not sure if I should get involved.
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Old 29th September 2017, 4:49 AM   #2
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...they were unofficially dating at the time and have just recently made it official.

she cant go scot free after what she has done with both of us.

What should i do ? Should i tell him ? he has the right to make an informed choice about her. I need to get this off my chest but I am not sure if I should get involved.
Dude, take a deep breath and chill. Your motivation is all about you and how you feel. She might be a bit shady, but if they weren't official and keeping it on the down low, then it's not like she killed your dog. She sex'd you up and didn't tell you she was banging the other guy too. So what? It's not your job to correct the course of the universe. The guy will either figure out who she is or not, but inserting your version of truth or consequences will probably not be taken as you intend, or have the results you intend.
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Old 29th September 2017, 6:53 AM   #3
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Which relationship do you value more - him or her? By telling him you may lose them both but if he's really your friend, I'd tell him. You don't have to phrase it as cheating. You don't know it was. You don't know if they were exclusive back them but like you said, he should be able to make an informed choice.

Understand, once he learns that you have been with his GF, if he choses to stay with her they will both avoid you like the plague.
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Old 29th September 2017, 6:56 AM   #4
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Yes tell him - today.
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Old 29th September 2017, 7:35 AM   #5
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This friend deserves the truth regardless.

Whether if she cheated on him or not.
So he is not left to feel like a fool because his
GF and you share this secret.

No man wants another man around that has
had sex with his GF.
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Old 29th September 2017, 9:30 AM   #6
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My friend's girlfriend was cheating on him with for 2 months. They had kept their relationship a secret from everyone and have only made it official now. The fling was the girl's idea and whenever I asked her about her equation with the guy she would lie and tell me that they were just friends. I did not wish to get involved with her if they were anything more than friends as it turns out they were. The guy and I are not close friends but still friends.I met her through him since they were always together.

She lied to me about their relationship status deliberately in order to get in my pants. I fell for her thinking we were exclusive but she was lying to me all along. She has hidden this from her guy as well.

The worst thing is that she did all this with me at his place in his bed behind his back. In fact one day she did stuff with me while he was sleeping on a bed passed out drunk right next to her. she even asked me to **** her right there but i refused. We would even hang out behind his back.

One day an incident took place and i found out they were still sexually involved, after that we kind of stopped talking to each other. But recently i found out that they were unofficially dating at the time and have just recently made it official.

I am in a dilemma. The guy is very serious about her and I believe he has the right to make an informed choice, something that this girl robbed me off by lying about her relationship with this guy. She is a very treacherous woman. I have never even received an apology from her. She doesn't talk to me and is kind of scared to even look me in the eye now. When i get even close to that guy, she gets scared. she cant go scot free after what she has done with both of us.

What should i do ? Should i tell him ? he has the right to make an informed choice about her. I need to get this off my chest but I am not sure if I should get involved.

If you were a real Street Maniac you would never even have to ask this question.

You'd have asked your "friend" about this as soon as she even bantered about messing around.

You have culpability in this as well, so fully accept you may get tuned up as a result
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I had to come back and reread your post multiple times because I couldn't figure out whether or not you are completely clueless or totally callous.

I think you operated on the assumption that a Stiff Dick has no conscience.

Well young man, at the current rate you are going at some point in the not too distance future you will probably be taking your meals out of a straw, either from this "friend" or anther "friend" you pull this on.

Pull your head out of your ass and act like an adult before you end up in a garbage bag by the side of Highway 64.
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Be prepared for nothing to happen. This sort of thing isn't a dealbreaker for some, especially since they were not exclusive...hell he could have been banging other chicks at the time for all you know. One thing that will happen....none of them will ever talk to you again. In these situations nothing positive comes out of it. You most certainly will not be looked at as some hero for exposing her pre exclusive activities. Will she learn anything? probably not. She will just carry on as before.
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Which relationship do you value more - him or her? By telling him you may lose them both but if he's really your friend, I'd tell him. You don't have to phrase it as cheating. You don't know it was. You don't know if they were exclusive back them but like you said, he should be able to make an informed choice.

Understand, once he learns that you have been with his GF, if he choses to stay with her they will both avoid you like the plague.
I am not on talking terms with the girl anyway now. As i said in my post, she is even scared of looking at me and gets really edgy when i even acknowledge her bf.

As for the guy, we aren't such close friends anyway. In fact me and girl became better friends during our little fling even though i met her through him.

Anyways, the classes i am attending with these guys will get over in 20 days and after that i may never see them again. So I am not concerned about our equation really.
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If you were a real Street Maniac you would never even have to ask this question.

You'd have asked your "friend" about this as soon as she even bantered about messing around.

You have culpability in this as well, so fully accept you may get tuned up as a result
See the thing is that my friend also told me that he and this girl were just friends. It's only recently that i found out they were unofficially dating. Though i am not sure if they were exclusive.
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I had to come back and reread your post multiple times because I couldn't figure out whether or not you are completely clueless or totally callous.

I think you operated on the assumption that a Stiff Dick has no conscience.

Well young man, at the current rate you are going at some point in the not too distance future you will probably be taking your meals out of a straw, either from this "friend" or anther "friend" you pull this on.

Pull your head out of your ass and act like an adult before you end up in a garbage bag by the side of Highway 64.
Please read my post again. I told you that these guys told me all this while that they were just friends. I asked the girl multiple times before and even during our fling as what was going on between them as they were always together. She kept telling me that they were just friends and nothing more. I was operating based on whatever knowledge was available to me. There is no question of my conscience here. I wouldn't have gotten involved had i known.
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Be prepared for nothing to happen. This sort of thing isn't a dealbreaker for some, especially since they were not exclusive...hell he could have been banging other chicks at the time for all you know. One thing that will happen....none of them will ever talk to you again. In these situations nothing positive comes out of it. You most certainly will not be looked at as some hero for exposing her pre exclusive activities. Will she learn anything? probably not. She will just carry on as before.
I am not sure if they were exclusive or not but they were certainly involved and were unofficially in a relationship. It is a strong possibility that they were exclusive.

My intention here is not to get them to break up. The outcome is not my concern. I just want him to KNOW. What he does with this knowledge is not my concern at all.
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Well then chop chop, give the guy the heads up.
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Old 29th September 2017, 12:37 PM   #14
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Sometimes it's noise telling as either he won't believe you or will just overlook it. I also told a woman about her husband's extreme cheating and she responded by posting happy pictures of her and her wayward man. He was forgiven in 3 days and I was the bad one. Just don't bother .but if he is a close friend of yours and it being that you guys have been doing that behind his back ,he probably needs to know. If you aren't really close ,just forget about it and let them be.she might continue cheating on him Anyways and he is bound to find out somehow.
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Sometimes it's noise telling as either he won't believe you or will just overlook it. I also told a woman about her husband's extreme cheating and she responded by posting happy pictures of her and her wayward man. He was forgiven in 3 days and I was the bad one. Just don't bother .but if he is a close friend of yours and it being that you guys have been doing that behind his back ,he probably needs to know. If you aren't really close ,just forget about it and let them be.she might continue cheating on him Anyways and he is bound to find out somehow.
We aren't close friends.

Even I want to let it go but the idea of letting her go scot free with this and poor guy getting serious about a girl like this makes me wonder...
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