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Old 25th January 2016, 1:51 PM   #1
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Friend/Acquaintance's girlfriend........

Ok, I met this girl through my friend. After a couple of months she and I get along really well. Whenever we are all around each other she will almost completely ignore him and will follow me around(sit by me) wherever I go. We text occasionally, and she has added me on every social media account available. They are in a relationship where they only see each other on the weekends. She will text me wanting me to come hang out with them, and on any occasion where she thinks he will be out of town, she wants to hang out with me solo. This happened several weeks ago. He was out of town, and she sent me a text saying she wanted to hangout. We made plans and did go out together the next night. I later found out they got into a argument about her wanting to go out with me, but she did it anyway.(I've known for a while that he has some insecurities about mine and her relationship) We both got too drunk and she said she couldn't drive home. We made the decision to stay at my place, and that she didn't have to say anything. We get to my place, we immediately go to the bedroom and she immediately takes off her clothes down to a tight undershirt and panties. It took me by surprise, we got into bed and her boyfriend called to check in I guess. She didn't answer. I don't know how I fell asleep, but I woke up with me and her cuddling. Nothing sexual happened. Long story short, I felt bad for getting into that situation.

My question is could this have all been innocent on her part? Or was she wanting me to make a move even though she is dating someone?

She did tell her BF once nothing happened.

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Old 25th January 2016, 1:57 PM   #2
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She's trouble.

Put yourself in your friend's shoes...
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Old 25th January 2016, 2:11 PM   #3
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She is interested in you.

Unsure on your 4 elation ship is with uim.

If you guys were best buddies and so he knew you wouldn't take his girl...he would have been fine with you two yogether.
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Old 25th January 2016, 4:19 PM   #4
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She is interested in you.

Unsure on your 4 elation ship is with uim.

If you guys were best buddies and so he knew you wouldn't take his girl...he would have been fine with you two yogether.
I've only been friends with this guy for around 2 years. More like acquaintances. If they weren't together I'd be on it, but I've never done anything like that before.
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Old 25th January 2016, 4:30 PM   #5
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He was out of town, and she sent me a text saying she wanted to hangout. We made plans and did go out together the next night. I later found out they got into a argument about her wanting to go out with me, but she did it anyway.(I've known for a while that he has some insecurities about mine and her relationship) We both got too drunk and she said she couldn't drive home. We made the decision to stay at my place, and that she didn't have to say anything. We get to my place, we immediately go to the bedroom and she immediately takes off her clothes down to a tight undershirt and panties. It took me by surprise, we got into bed and her boyfriend called to check in I guess. She didn't answer. I don't know how I fell asleep, but I woke up with me and her cuddling. Nothing sexual happened. Long story short, I felt bad for getting into that situation.

My question is could this have all been innocent on her part? Or was she wanting me to make a move even though she is dating someone?

She did tell her BF once nothing happened.

Thanks,
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I am sorry if this sounds offensive, but you can't possibly be this naive.

She got nearly naked with you in YOUR bed --- and woke up cuddling with you -- how in any way could that possibly be innocent?

Not to mention, her boyfriend is YOUR friend. Where is your loyalty to your friend to allow this to happen?

This same thing did happen to me a few years ago. My friend's husband developed a bit of a crush on me, and when my friend was out of town once he called me and wanted to take me out to dinner.

Of course I said NO, but then on V-Day he sent flowers to my work (where my friend also worked!). I wouldn't accept them.

Apparently she knew he was crushing on me (threesome anyone?...lol)...but didn't care.

I did!! He was my friend's husband, but if he had been her boyfriend I would have felt the same -- that he is OFF LIMITS.

How good a friend is this guy to you? Again, don't mean to offend but where is your loyalty to your friend to allow this to happen?

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Old 25th January 2016, 5:16 PM   #6
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I am sorry if this sounds offensive, but you can't possibly be this naive.

She got nearly naked with you in YOUR bed --- and woke up cuddling with you -- how in any way could that possibly be innocent?

Not to mention, her boyfriend is YOUR friend. Where is your loyalty to your friend to allow this to happen?

This same thing did happen to me a few years ago. My friend's husband developed a bit of a crush on me, and when my friend was out of town once he called me and wanted to take me out to dinner.

Of course I said NO, but then on V-Day he sent flowers to my work (where my friend also worked!). I wouldn't accept them.

Apparently she knew he was crushing on me (threesome anyone?...lol)...but didn't care.

I did!! He was my friend's husband, but if he had been her boyfriend I would have felt the same -- that he is OFF LIMITS.

How good a friend is this guy to you? Again, don't mean to offend but where is your loyalty to your friend to allow this to happen?
That's just it, me and the friend aren't close. That's why I used the term acquaintance to describe him as well. Me and this friend never hang out 1v1, and if I never talked to him it wouldn't have an impact on me. I get along with him, but always in a group setting when we do see each other. I don't think I would see him if his GF didn't text me.
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Old 25th January 2016, 5:38 PM   #7
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No, it's not innocent on her part, and I'm not saying those two are going to last, because they're not, but if you consider him a true friend, you need to block her and cut all contact right now to honor that friendship and let those two fall apart on their own. Don't tell him. If she gets drunk and tells him, then you can say, Yeah, I didn't mean for her to get the wrong idea, which is why I blocked her after that. Sorry.

Now you know she will totally cheat with the best friend of whoever she's dating, so you should in no way consider seeing her again because that's low.
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Old 25th January 2016, 6:07 PM   #8
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I dont know. What do you want from her? Don't get in a relationship with her!!

If she will cheat with you then sooner or later she will cheat on you.
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Old 25th January 2016, 6:46 PM   #9
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So you guys think she was ready to cheat? I've told one person that I trust and they were like "Dude...Really. She was all but telling you."

I'm fairly certain she told him she stayed over, but didn't give the details.
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Sure shes trying to monkey branch to a new relationship - like how we quit a job until we have another one secured.

So by all means have fun but don't let her talk you into any commitment.
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Sure shes trying to monkey branch to a new relationship - like how we quit a job until we have another one secured.

So by all means have fun but don't let her talk you into any commitment.
That's what I've been told. I've had a few friends ask me if anything was going on in the last month or two just by the way she acts when I'm around. But she took it to a new level when we hung out the other night.
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no offense, [] I believe you already know what to do. You should know what to do already. But I have this feeling you want to tread on the dark path and I am not sure how many responses you need here for you to know that what happened is inappropriate at best and regardless if you're only friends with your friend for 2 years, whether he's just an acquaintance or whatever, that doesn't give you a license to steal his girlfriend or hurt him by participating in this cheating stuff.

Morals and values, dude. Just look into your own and you'll definitely know what to do.
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no offense, [] I believe you already know what to do. You should know what to do already. But I have this feeling you want to tread on the dark path and I am not sure how many responses you need here for you to know that what happened is inappropriate at best and regardless if you're only friends with your friend for 2 years, whether he's just an acquaintance or whatever, that doesn't give you a license to steal his girlfriend or hurt him by participating in this cheating stuff.

Morals and values, dude. Just look into your own and you'll definitely know what to do.
You're right. I've already cut contact. Guess I'll just stay on that path.
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You're right. I've already cut contact. Guess I'll just stay on that path.
Good for you.

You've just demonstrated integrity and good faith.
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Old 26th January 2016, 6:43 PM   #15
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This would be a situation where I would tell him his GF is a skank and his anxiety about her is spot on.
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