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Old 1st May 2011, 11:17 PM   #1
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Question I Cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years

We've been together for 3 years now. I cheated on him in january with a navy guy that i met from a friend on facebook... After cheating on him i felt so bad and i wanted to tell him but i could never bring myself to tell him because of fear of losing him... He's a very sensitive guy. He found out yesterday that i cheated on him through a note that i wrote to a friend and came to my work and confronted me and asked me if i cheated. I denied then i went outside to talk to him and i confessed that i did cheat and that i was sorry. He gave me back his promise ring and told me it was over... I went home and we talked and he told me that he could never see me flying back to michigan to my family and him nvever seeing me again... He went through his computer went on facebook found the guy i cheated on him with and read all the old posts were wrote to eachother. This made him very heart broken... We slept in diffrent beds last night and barley talked... This morning he told me that he still loves me but i broke his heart and i lost his trust. It was going to take a long time to gain his trust back... Were suppose to be moving into a townhouse together next week.... I don't know what to do or what to say or how to act around him... I dont know if he needs space or if i should be talking to him... I just dont want to lose him and i really want what we had back...
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Old 1st May 2011, 11:29 PM   #2
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He found a note you had written? A physical note?
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Old 2nd May 2011, 12:43 AM   #3
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He found a note you had written? A physical note?
*cough*

Anyway, there is really nothing you can do. Whether he decides to stay with you is his decision entirely. If he wants to talk, talk to him, otherwise just keep quite about it and let him do what he has to do to get through this situation. Face it, you effed up, got caught, and now you have to face the consequences.

BTW why did you cheat on him?

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Old 2nd May 2011, 2:12 AM   #4
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Now all of a sudden you want him---meanwhile what did you want while YOU had sex back in Jan.----you certainly didn't want your BF, then---did you????---otherwise you would have never gone out with a stranger

As the last poster said---WHY did you find it necessary to go out with this other guy, and why did you need to have sex with this other guy

You may think you have been doing nothing wrong since Jan.,---but everyday you have come home looked your BF., in the eyes and told him everything was fine---you have been cheating on him, by lying to him via OMMISSION

You need to find out for yourself---WHY you were so willing to 1. meet/go out with this other guy---2. HAVE SEX WITH THIS OTHER GUY----those in love with their partners do not do things like that
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Old 2nd May 2011, 3:03 AM   #5
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I just dont want to lose him and i really want what we had back...
You do want to lose him and you don't want what you used to have.

The fact you went to shag someone else proves it.

P.S. your BF will NEVER forget, ever.
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Old 2nd May 2011, 9:03 AM   #6
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yep, you didn't give a rats azz earlier in the year when you CHEATED on him. all you can do is sit back and hang on, cause are the chips are on his side on whether to forgive your cheating butt. notice i said forgive, cause he will never forget how you so easly broke his trust.
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Old 2nd May 2011, 12:38 PM   #7
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I agree with the posters above. You don't deserve any sympathy. You made a conscious decision to cheat with a man that was not your boyfriend, you put your boyfriend's health at risk, and you betrayed him in the worst way. You don't want to lose him? No, you don't want to lose your safety net.
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Old 2nd May 2011, 6:51 PM   #8
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We've been together for 3 years now. I cheated on him in january with a navy guy that i met from a friend on facebook...

.. I just dont want to lose him and i really want what we had back...
If you love him so much, why did you cheat?

You should pay him money for his suffering and give him several states worth of space.
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Old 2nd May 2011, 10:58 PM   #9
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BTW why did you cheat on him?
Because she wanted to and only cared for herself. No other explanation.
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So, how did you cheat on him? Because having a girlfriend cheat on you with a guy in the navy has got to be really painful just for the ick factor of the STI’s those guys carry around from port to port.

I can decide which part is worse that you met some random dude through facebook or that he was in the Navy. (Please don’t tell me this guy works on a submarine)
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Now all you can do is just cross your fingers and hope that he doesn't have enough strength to stick to his sense of morals and has a secret cuckolding fantasy you didn't previously know about.
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Now all you can do is just cross your fingers and hope that he doesn't have enough strength to stick to his sense of morals and has a secret cuckolding fantasy you didn't previously know about.
“Secret cuckolding fantasy.” Thank you for the laughs.
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Old 2nd May 2011, 11:39 PM   #13
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Solution: Get a new BF and start from zero...

I don't think it'll work out because both of you will be left with the burden. He will resent you for cheating on him and you won't tolerate his anger for too long. You might get impatient and so it's a lost situation.

There are tons of fishes in the sea so he can't be the only one.
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Old 3rd May 2011, 6:09 PM   #14
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We have talked it out and i believe that him finding that note was a wake up call to myself. What was i thinking cheating on the one i love so much. I know know what it feels like to break the heart of the one i love so much. I know many of you have replied if i loved him i wouldnt have cheated. We all make mistakes and that was my huge mistake. I have learned from mine the hard way but i now know that i will Never cheat again. Going through this pain of watching him cry bc of what i have done and all the things that we used to have that i ahve lost bc of what i have done... I love him with all my heart and i will wait for him to heal... He has forgiven me and taken his ring back... All i can do know is be there for him and show him how much i love him and how WRONG i truly was.
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Solution: Get a new BF and start from zero...

I don't think it'll work out because both of you will be left with the burden. He will resent you for cheating on him and you won't tolerate his anger for too long. You might get impatient and so it's a lost situation.

There are tons of fishes in the sea so he can't be the only one.
How about her not having a BF for another few years until she learns to mature, which is highly unlikely for cheaters. He's the one with the options, not her.
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