TunaInTheBrine Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 I have about four different women I'm dating very casually. My dilemma is that I just slept with one of them on the second date, and she is a foreigner who I think has different dating expectations than most westerners do. She hid her OLD profile after our first date and has been hitting me up constantly. I'm starting to think she thinks we're exclusive, and I don't want to hurt her. I do like her, but she is only in the country for a few more months and I don't want to close myself off to other potential long-term matches. I think I should talk to her, but this has me wondering how other guys with similar experiences manage these situations. Any input is appreciated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 So, you think you know what western women want, huh? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tressugar Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Honesty is the best practice. Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 You can be ethical by being honest. If you had reason to believe she might have expected exclusivity after sex due to cultural reasons then it was unethical to sleep with her without discussing your intentions. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 If you haven't had any discussion about seeing others or not I think it's totally fine. I dating 6 different men at the moment. Come at me ... Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 I have about four different women I'm dating very casually. My dilemma is that I just slept with one of them on the second date, and she is a foreigner who I think has different dating expectations than most westerners do. She hid her OLD profile after our first date and has been hitting me up constantly. I'm starting to think she thinks we're exclusive, and I don't want to hurt her. I do like her, but she is only in the country for a few more months and I don't want to close myself off to other potential long-term matches. I think I should talk to her, but this has me wondering how other guys with similar experiences manage these situations. Any input is appreciated. I suspect when one casually dates several women they can gauge the interest level. It not like your spending a lot of time with any of them. Link to post Share on other sites
mushroomlol Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Better tell her upfront that you are interested in her but you two are not exclusive. Hiding her profile might mean she's totally thinking you guys are together. Does she have a lot of dating especially online dating experience before? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TunaInTheBrine Posted March 14, 2017 Author Share Posted March 14, 2017 I suspect when one casually dates several women they can gauge the interest level. It not like your spending a lot of time with any of them. Yeah, I find myself intentionally creating some distance in terms of texting frequency and planning dates so as to not give 'the boyfriend vibe.' She seems oblivious so far, so I do think I'll have to talk openly with her. The others seem to get it, but I think for her it's because of her cultural background and experience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Just keep having fun until "the talk" comes up Link to post Share on other sites
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