Bobbi7 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 So, I decided to go on a coffee date/meeting with a guy I met OLD. We met up for coffee, good conversation, etc, etc. He then asked me what my plans were later that night. I just told him I was going to stay in and watch movies. Thinking that it was going to be the end of our meeting, he then suggests that either I go over to his place to watch tv or him to my place. I was like Wth? I have no interest in having sex with the guy on the first meeting. Geez. Then, we just decided to see a movie at the theater, then that was it, no plans on seeing each other again. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Oh he wanted to Netflix and chill huh? Hahahha 4 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 When in college I had a friend who's dating system was to invite women he had just met over to our house to watch tv. The "problem" was, we did not have a tv, which was immediately apparent upon entering our house. A few of them would just leave, but the majority ended up staying the night. The woman he eventually married was one of the ones that stayed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 Oh he wanted to Netflix and chill huh? Hahahha Yeah, I suggested salsa dancing, since he's an instructor, but he declined saying that he went dancing the night before. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 This guy is a bonafide.....wait for it......loser. Sorry it didn't work out for you....oh well NEXT! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lilmissjava Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Got to give the guy credit for not beating around the bush tho. Was this Tinder? haha Next! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bobbi7 Posted November 30, 2015 Author Share Posted November 30, 2015 So, basically its more "tactful" to say Netflix and chill instead of being straight forward and saying: Let's have sex! I never understood this theory. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 So, basically its more "tactful" to say Netflix and chill instead of being straight forward and saying: Let's have sex! I never understood this theory. Bobbi7 I notice in your posts that you are always trying to understand why some guy did or said something and what it means ... I think it will help you if you just think about what you feel and what is good for you! :bunny: I mean a guy you just met, would it be smart or safe to go to his or your house right now? What good would come out of it unless you really really wanted to have sex immediately? So, probably that would not be a good idea! And if he never calls you again you can be sure it wouldn't have been a good idea, right?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 So, basically its more "tactful" to say Netflix and chill instead of being straight forward and saying: Let's have sex! I never understood this theory. It's called plausible deniability. Link to post Share on other sites
GingerVixen Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 You should delete him. This guy only wants sex with you. Next Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Lets go to my place....because it's closer to my bed lol. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I have never had a guy suggest this on a first date. I think you may want to consider screening your dates better (said in the kindest way ). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 (edited) So, basically its more "tactful" to say Netflix and chill instead of being straight forward and saying: Let's have sex! I never understood this theory. Yes, it is. Not too difficult for me to understand anyway... And I'll take a stab at the theory: If you invite a woman over to f uck, she has to make up her mind and commit on the spot. If you invite her to watch tv/netflix/whatever and she accepts, she's not agreeing to sex, but she's at least open to the prospect at that moment. Maybe not that night or maybe not even ever, but as of that moment it hasn't been taken off the table. As long as you've been clear that your interest is romantic, and it's not just an invitation to a friend... Edited December 1, 2015 by WaitingForBardot Link to post Share on other sites
henderson14 Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Hahaha. I always invite a girl over to watch a movie when I'm expecting to get sex. It's just hilarious that he asked you are the first date! Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Watching TV/Movies at someone's house ISN'T a date. Hanging out ISN'T dating. A guy should be putting effort into dating in the beginning. If he's just asking to sit on the couch, he's lazy, and most likely just looking for sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Zippy2000 Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Watching TV? Wheres the romance in that? lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I don't know how common it is but since you are in your mid 30s I would assume any man your age who suggests this is not somebody you want to date. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Actually, this is why I don't do coffee meets. My first date/meet has to be something interesting. Can be free or cheap... But it has to show some creativity or effort. This screens out the vast majority of incompatible men. I agree with the other poster... Screen harder in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
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