pjm123 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 whats considered taking it too far in the bedroom? Like name calling and physicalness do you call girls whor sl#t btch etc.. Also do you choke them slap them? What are some things yall do This one girl i almost had sex with i was spanking her and said it hurt didnt want me to do it. What do you do how do you know when to stop doing what u wan t? To escalate what was best things u able to do to get to touch a girl Besides say tickle her or hold hand or rub leg or tap her make joke? Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 If they do it in porn, it is best to avoid it in the bedroom unless she asks for it. You are not ready to handle kinky sex if you can not talk about it. My first few times with a girl in bed is about establishing trust and a connection. If you are having one night stands and hook ups, it is usually going to be some normal plain sex. You can ask them what they like and maybe you figure out some things that a majority of girls like. You can probe a little bit by touching an ******* if you're into that.. don't ram a finger in there or you might end things prematurely. Just rest it there and she if she reaches back and swats your hand away, says no, or relaxes her *******. 92% of all women do not like to be spanked, IMO. Some do, some find it naughty. A lot of girls like their hair gently pulled. However, it is better to communicate. A lot of girls won't be so open at first, hence the reason to establish trust. Link to post Share on other sites
bolase Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 If they do it in porn, it is best to avoid it in the bedroom unless she asks for it. You are not ready to handle kinky sex if you can not talk about it. My first few times with a girl in bed is about establishing trust and a connection. If you are having one night stands and hook ups, it is usually going to be some normal plain sex. You can ask them what they like and maybe you figure out some things that a majority of girls like. You can probe a little bit by touching an ******* if you're into that.. don't ram a finger in there or you might end things prematurely. Just rest it there and she if she reaches back and swats your hand away, says no, or relaxes her *******. 92% of all women do not like to be spanked, IMO. Some do, some find it naughty. A lot of girls like their hair gently pulled. However, it is better to communicate. A lot of girls won't be so open at first, hence the reason to establish trust. Lol 92%, such science Most of my friends and I like being spanked though? I think rather than assuming women will or won't like some act, it's better for you two to assume nothing is off the table, but just approach everything the first time with caution, building up, touching an area first as above, etc, licking her, f you're going to try choke hold, make her feel very safe beforehand and use one hand gently but firmly, or for hair pulling when you're kissing, pull away and look in her eyes, reach and grab some of her hair and do it quickly and then let go and kiss her again, you see what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 The problem with the huge porn usage now is that it gives guys all the wrong information. The vast majority of women don't want degradation and humiliation. For the most part they want tenderness and loving and good foreplay that doesn't include getting hurt. Pornography is all about the man's fantasy and says very little about what women like. BJs are not something most women relish the thought of and yet every porn film has them doing it. It's something most women will do sometime if they really like you but not all the time. The vast majority of them don't like facials or breastials or anything shot at them, pretty much. As you grow as a couple, then experimentation is fine, within the bounds of what is mutually agreeable. If you want to please a woman, learn to use your moving appendages on her lady parts nonstop for long periods of time until she is done. It's the opposite of what's in porn films, which is interrupting her flow so she can go down on you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Moy Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 What's too far? Anything that either of you are uncomfortable with. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 This one girl i almost had sex with i was spanking her and said it hurt didnt want me to do it. You hadn't even had sex with her, and you were spanking her? I am not surprised she turned you down. Stay vanilla until you get to know someone, unless she is obviously up for more kinky stuff. Calling someone you hardly know or someone who hates all that female degradation stuff, a whor sl#t btch etc. is going to get you a slap on the face or your clothes pushed out the window. Real life is not a porn movie, woman are human beings, not pieces of meat to humiliate and denigrate, without their consent. Ask and you may receive, assume and you will probably be kicked out with your tail between your legs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Erised Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 whats considered taking it too far in the bedroom? Like name calling and physicalness do you call girls whor sl#t btch etc.. Also do you choke them slap them? What are some things yall do This one girl i almost had sex with i was spanking her and said it hurt didnt want me to do it. What do you do how do you know when to stop doing what u wan t? To escalate what was best things u able to do to get to touch a girl Besides say tickle her or hold hand or rub leg or tap her make joke? Don't go for bdsm in the bedroom if you can't communicate. It's all communication and consent. The best way to see if going that way is okay is to communicate. If you can't communicate, it's a bad idea to be doing all that, as fun as it is, anyhow. Link to post Share on other sites
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