Been a week since the 1st date

[Bond-007]

Hey guys! first time poster. Apologies for the wall of text! Cliffs at the end.

 

Let me frame the situation as briefly as I can: I met a great compatible girl on a dating site. We have a lot in common. (we like the same music, we have similar personalities, like the same films) I initially messaged her because she said she was a huge fan of one my favorite movies. We hit it off immediately and messaged back and forth throughout the night. Within the same same hour, she followed me on instagram and added me on facebook. I gave her my phone number and she immediately messaged me saying "I feel like I know you"

 

So we started texting back and forth. Turned out we both liked the same kind of bands. There was a show the following day, and she suggested we go out. It was a casual thing, some of her other friends would be there. I didn't have a problem with that considering we hardly know each other.

 

We met up the following night and drove out to the venue. She was absolutely stunning! She told me that some of her friends were bringing a bottle of whisky to drink and I was welcome to have some (she didn't drink). I had a few shots with her friends just to calm my nerves a bit. When we were walking to the venue, her friends were up ahead. I offered to "escort" her to the building and we held hands. When we got there, she wanted to dance.

 

She grinded on me like crazy during the music and we danced for quite a while together. When we were hanging out with her friends, she was hanging all over me. Her friends also really liked me and said that they'd love to hang out again. After the show, we went out for food and decided to head home.

 

On the way home I was super tired. It was 2am and we had to drive over an hour back home. I tried to keep lively conversation, but since I was so tired it kind of fell flat. Unfortunately, there was no good night kiss, there was a hug though. I don't necessarily consider no kiss at the end of a date striking out. I'm just hoping that I didn't seem aloof at the end of the night.

 

The next day I really had her on my mind. She uploaded a picture of us to instagram the next day. I know you're supposed to wait 3 days to contact, but since she was so forward before I didn't think it was necessary. I shot her a text letting her know I had a great time and we should do it again. She immediately texted back. We exchanged texts for a few hours. She still seemed interested in me, but I didn't feel the cavalcade of enthusiasm I did before. For instance, I said we should go out again and she never really addressed it directly, she was hard to nail down. I found that troubling considering she was begging me to go out the night before! I broke off the conversation saying I had to get to bed. Her last text to me was "awwwww! sweet dreams ;)"

 

So now it's been a week since I talked to her. I assumed she wasn't interested and decided to check back with the dating site for different girls. I was looking through my messages on the dating site and noticed saw our old messages. She changed her profile pic to the one from our date. I found this a little confusing..was this a subtle hint that she wants to hang out again?

 

I want to go out again, but I honestly don't know where to go from here. One of her favorite bands is breaking up, So I was thinking about texting her and asking if she'd heard the news as an icebreaker. I was also thinking of addressing my aloofness during the drive home. Then go from there. What do you guys think, is she brushing me off or should I go for it! How would you suggest I move things forward?

 

CLIFFS:

 

Met a girl on a dating site

Have a lot in common, music, movies, personality type

we messaged back and forth on the dating site the first night, she also added me on FB and Instagram

Gave her my number, she sent a text over that said "I feel like I know you"

One of her favorite bands was playing the next night, she suggested we go

Casual date, some of her friends were there

We held hands and she was hanging on me walking over to the venue

during the music, she was grinding on me like crazy

Her friends really liked me, and suggested we hang out again

We left the venue, got food and headed home

It was super late when we headed home (2am) over an hour drive home

Tried to hold lively conversation on the way home but I was super tired and it fell flat

No good night kiss, but got a hug

Next day she was really on my mind

She uploaded a picture of us to instagram the next day

I know the standard protocol is to wait 3 days no contact, but since we have already texted back and forth I didn't think it would be necessary

Shot a text over saying I had a really great time and we should do it again

We exchanged texts for hours

She never really addressed whether or not she wanted to hang out again, but still continued to text me

decided to break off the conversation, told her I had to go to bed. Her last text was "Awwww....sweet dreams!! ;)"

Haven't talked to her for a week

assumed she wasn't interested so I logged back into the dating site looking for other dates

saw she changed her profile picture to the one from our date (upload to instagram)

Is this a subtle hint she wants me to contact her?

I really want to hang out but I don't know what my next move should be

Her favorite band might be breaking up, I figured I'd use that as an icebreaker when I message her

 

I really want to go out with her again, but I'm not sure what my next move should be. What should I do?

[mammasita]

Bottom line, if you want to go out again.....ask her. Stop the second guessing, overthinking and wondering. JUST ASK.

 

"Hey wondering if you're available to go out this weekend, I'd like to see you again"....it's simple.

[smackie9]

Never ever explain yourself....makes you look like a wuss. Just ask her out, and keep the jibber jabber out of the conversation.....always keep things simple.

[angel.eyes]

Have you ACTUALLY asked her on a date...specific activity, date/time, etc.? Or are you waiting for her to take the lead again?

 

So far, she seems to have taken all the initiative. You wouldn't have met if she hadn't invited you out.That tends to fall flat very quickly if you don't get it together and start initiating.

[CalvinM]

Why are you texting so much? You must be really young.

 

Does she need to draw you a map? Man up and ask her out to something specific.

 

Also, group dates are risky.