shadow15 Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I'm just wondering if anybody would have an idea why i could possibly not be lasting as long in bed. I usually can last my own during sex, at least a good 20-30 minutes while also pleasing my partner, but as of lately i have been struggling. We haven't changed anything but i did recently get sick where my testicals was hurting and after i got it checked (which thankfully nothing was wrong) i then had problems with my stomach and stool, which is getting better. My only explanation is my immune system is weak at the moment, but it still bothers my ego as a man that i been struggling. Does anybody have any suggestions to get back to my old self because even though i know my girlfriend said it doesn't bother her, i know it has too. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
c0nfused88 Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Is she still getting off? If so, I don't think it'd bother me. It only bothers me when he is quick and seems to pay little attention to me or me getting off.. I'm just wondering if anybody would have an idea why i could possibly not be lasting as long in bed. I usually can last my own during sex, at least a good 20-30 minutes while also pleasing my partner, but as of lately i have been struggling. We haven't changed anything but i did recently get sick where my testicals was hurting and after i got it checked (which thankfully nothing was wrong) i then had problems with my stomach and stool, which is getting better. My only explanation is my immune system is weak at the moment, but it still bothers my ego as a man that i been struggling. Does anybody have any suggestions to get back to my old self because even though i know my girlfriend said it doesn't bother her, i know it has too. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Don't worry about it. Things will get back to normal for you. Though, I don't know what is happening to why you're not able to last longer than 30 minutes. Meaning, that once your up and going, it is a matter of control. As I can stay up for hours during sex. For me I find that staying up only lasts for a minute if nothing is going on. It is something that has been ever since my first erection, and I consider that normal. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Same girl? Hmmmm, have you changed up the frequency or type of masturbation you've been doing? How about porn? Has that changed? How about how you feel about her? Do you feel stronger about her or less so? How you feel about a person can really change things up. To get your confidence back, why not rub one out before you see her. That should help your stamina. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I'm just wondering if anybody would have an idea why i could possibly not be lasting as long in bed. I usually can last my own during sex, at least a good 20-30 minutes while also pleasing my partner, but as of lately i have been struggling. We haven't changed anything but i did recently get sick where my testicals was hurting and after i got it checked (which thankfully nothing was wrong) i then had problems with my stomach and stool, which is getting better. My only explanation is my immune system is weak at the moment, but it still bothers my ego as a man that i been struggling. Does anybody have any suggestions to get back to my old self because even though i know my girlfriend said it doesn't bother her, i know it has too. Thank you. How often do you have sex? I will tell you that my fiance and I had sex pretty often sometimes twice a day. There came a point where he was struggling and we cut it down for a while. Then, he was back to his old self again. Too much of anything is not a good thing Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Don't worry about it. Things will get back to normal for you. Though, I don't know what is happening to why you're not able to last longer than 30 minutes. Meaning, that once your up and going, it is a matter of control. As I can stay up for hours during sex. For me I find that staying up only lasts for a minute if nothing is going on. It is something that has been ever since my first erection, and I consider that normal. hours?! no kidding...* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Don't worry about it. Things will get back to normal for you. Though, I don't know what is happening to why you're not able to last longer than 30 minutes. Meaning, that once your up and going, it is a matter of control. As I can stay up for hours during sex. For me I find that staying up only lasts for a minute if nothing is going on. It is something that has been ever since my first erection, and I consider that normal. sdrawksaB, hours! Now you are pulling ahead of mightcpa Not that there should be any one "up"manship. Link to post Share on other sites
Elle1975 Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Not a doctor here, but watch what you eat. That's where I'd start, since you saw a medical professional and everything checked out. It can't hurt, and it does make a difference on your level of energy as well as your libido. If I spend a week eating processed food and don't cook as much, I can tell.. It affects my body, my level of energy, as well as my sleep. So anyway, my question is, how do you eat? What do you eat? Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 hours?! no kidding...* No I am gifted Multiple orgasms too. Though I think peeps don't believe me when I try to help with their minute long erections Link to post Share on other sites
ktya Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 We all go through phases. I had sex for almost seven hours once and I've also at times had difficulty making it ten minutes, same girl even on both ends of that spectrum. At times I just go and go until I'm just too tired to continue and dont get off at all. Not sure if you are going at her unprotected, but you might try using an extra thick condom to reduce the intensity. This way your not blowing a load inside her and you can still go down on her without lapping yourself up (unless your into that sort of thing) and you can light it up a second time without doing sloppy seconds if that still doesnt work to extend your stamina. Like an above poster take a look at your masturbation habits, if they have changed in technique or frequency or if you are checking out a different kind of porn. You might also try switching up the positions more frequently. Doggystyle might be a bit too intense between the visual and the added friction. Missionary with more emphasis on kissing and the emotional connection might help as your making eye contact and this may take your mind off your performance or lack thereof. If she makes noise see if she can tone it down as that might be part of your performance issue if it turns you on too much. Sideways on either side might be a good position to try as well as you can vary the friction by exploring different angles and moving her legs around (not lying beside eachother, I mean putting her on her side and lifting the upper leg towards her chest while straddling her other leg that remains straight). Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadow15 Posted October 1, 2014 Author Share Posted October 1, 2014 Same girl? Hmmmm, have you changed up the frequency or type of masturbation you've been doing? How about porn? Has that changed? How about how you feel about her? Do you feel stronger about her or less so? How you feel about a person can really change things up. To get your confidence back, why not rub one out before you see her. That should help your stamina. Yea same girl, and no i haven't changed the type of or frequency of my masterbation habits when she isn't around. I usually still masterbate at least once or twice a day every other day if we aren't having sex. The porn hasn't changed but what i have noticed is i don't get fully erected when I'm watching porn and I'm getting off without being fully erected. The way i feel for her, IMO has grew, i do love her, but i known i loved her for a while and that didn't affect my sex life before. I always been attracted to her, i can't sit beside her without getting an erection. To answer some of the other posts, sometimes i can get her off and sometimes i can't. Most of time i do but as of lately i been having trouble lasting as long. Its not that i can't keep up the erection its just i get off quick. I know the other day, i got her off and she said it was amazing cause she told me a day later and the other day i went for about 20 minutes. A coupe of days before that though, i got off real quick so see its inconsistent. We have sex maybe 3-4 times a week and as of lately i been trying different condoms just because. I just tried a new one today so maybe that had something to do with it and my masterbation habits. I think I'm going tone is down some. What bothered me the most today is i masterbated about 2 hours before we had sex and i got off with her on top of me and that was a first for me. Maybe today was just a bad day, i don't know; all i know is i have been doing kegals on and off all day haha. Link to post Share on other sites
oberkeat Posted October 2, 2014 Share Posted October 2, 2014 Look on the bright side: at least you have a sex life. Link to post Share on other sites
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