Younger men are interested in older women, men just do not want us to believe this?

[Brit]

I have read many posts of older men dating younger women, want women with no baggage, that once a woman passes 30 she is not desirable anymore. This is hogwash. Since single, I have been in many interesting conversations with young men, early 20s, while out, (gorgeous young men), and when I told them they were just babies, and I was in my thirties, this had no phase on them, seemed more of a wow factor, and they were even more interested. Not the slightest hint of ageism, hangups about women, and it was so refreshing to interact with such non judgemental men.

I have yet to take a chance with a man who is 20 or 21. Are there any women here who do date much younger men and if so how did it go or how is it going?

[Negative Nancy]

they all want just sex, believe me. for serious stuff like marriage and kids they will choose younger women.

[FitChick]

The OP never said she was looking for marriage or a father for her future kids.

 

Fewer men want kids these days because they are well aware of the pitfalls, unlike in the Fifties when you were expected to settle down and breed and not complain.

 

I date younger men but they are 40+ so there is not that much of a difference once you get older. Ten years difference is "smaller" than when you are in your twenties.

[Brit]

Yes marriage and a future father is not on my mind lol, do not think this is normally in one's mind when out, but I could be mistaken:)

But, no, actually they were not hitting on me in a disrespectful manner, actually quite sincere, and they were refreshing, with clear and open minds. I am often mistaken to be in my 20s by some, and it was enlightening to see that this, 'myth,' older men try to force upon older women is false, and that, yes young men are interested in older women too.

[FitChick]

Older men can now see what it's like to have the threat hanging over their heads of being replaced by a younger model

[kaylan]

It was and still is something I wanna try before Im older. Ive never been with an older chick...and when I was in my early 20s (im 25 now) it was super fun flirting with older women.

 

I totally tried to pick up this older woman once when I was 23. I was working at H&M at the time and she was getting my advice on a couple of outfits, and we were pretty flirty. Anyways, I walked away to do something else in the store and my boss runs into me and goes "kay, that lady really likes you....she said you were super helpful"...so then Im thinking "hmmm maybe I can capitalize on this"

 

So I ask my coworker to let me ring her up....and then the lady was saying that she thinks she should get her blouse a size bigger...so I go "well it fit great from what I saw" and she had the biggest grin on her face and says "when I was younger I didnt have to worry about how things fit". So then as I put her stuff in her bag, I thought to drop my number in it, but instead I just outright said "speaking of younger, Im not young enough where I couldnt give you my phone number am I?".

 

She smiles, laughs...calls me a sweetheart and then says "honey...youre just a baby...what are you? 20?" And I tell her Id be 24 soon. And she goes " do you really want to know?" And I ask "know what?". She tells me shes 48! I swear to god I thought she was mid to late 30s. She looked the bomb. Anyways...we she went on to say "it seems thats the new things with you young guys... huh...I see you pairing up with us a lot more..." And I just smiled and laughed and said "Age doesnt bother me, an attractive woman is an attractive woman"

 

She smiled and left. Honestly...I think if I wasnt at work, and I had met her out in a bar or something, I totally could have turned on the after burners and gotten something going. I failed, but it was a fun little flirt thing. But I totally want an older woman before my time as a youth is over and it loses its novelty.

[Negative Nancy]

it was enlightening to see that this, 'myth,' older men try to force upon older women is false, and that, yes young men are interested in older women too.

 

probably because the younger ones rejected them, so they take what they can get. beggars can't be choosers.

[threebyfate]

While I don't agree with the Internet evo-psych boys who're constantly putting women over 30 down due to their own insecurities/issues, why the need to be thought of as desirable by people so much younger? They're not the fountain of youth where you can vampire their youth. It's really okay to age.

[kaylan]

probably because the younger ones rejected them, so they take what they can get. beggars can't be choosers.

^Not even sweetheart. Im not a beggar and I dont do horrible with women my age. =P

[Brit]

Older men can now see what it's like to have the threat hanging over their heads of being replaced by a younger model

 

Lol, exactly Fitchick, I was quite surprised that gorgeous, young men, had absolutely no hang ups to the issue of age, and were so sincerely receptive. And they actually, 'talk,' and hold a conversation, and them trying to leave a woman with a remarkable impression of them, rather than the other way around left somewhat of an imprint, a positive one.

[Brit]

probably because the younger ones rejected them, so they take what they can get. beggars can't be choosers.

 

Nope, sorry, not a factor. They were definitely hotties.

[joystickd]

I have had women in 30s, 40s and 50s. I know for me it was for fun for both of us and we understood noting serious would come out of it. Younger men do but a lot are afraid to say it. I think the main thing for younger men is to watch out for the severely damaged ones. Bitter from numerous relationships and just generally not very great people in general. There are a very small amount of these types most just want a man that is into them. Plus the sex is f**king amazing.

[Imported]

Attractive people are attractive. Some stay attractive for a very long time even when compared to people much younger than them. I'll take an attractive women of any any age over non-attractive women that are younger. As I get older, my lower number for the age of girls I date stays the same (25). I don't make it a point not to date women over 30, but usually end up with women under 30.

 

I'd eventually like to raise kids and generally don't go for women over 35. I applaud them if they are still maintaining everything and look good, but I have concerns about their ability to have healthy babies safely.

[Brit]

I am not looking to have babies:) But, just a FYI, yes, the older a woman gets the higher the chance of having a child with Down's Syndrome, but, the older a man gets, his sperm becomes more and more defective, (this is fact, so please no flaming), and regardless of the woman's age there is a higher chance of having a child with Spinal Bifida and a few other disturbing abnormalities, based off the little swimmers, not the eggs.

[TheFinalWord]

I have read many posts of older men dating younger women, want women with no baggage, that once a woman passes 30 she is not desirable anymore. This is hogwash. Since single, I have been in many interesting conversations with young men, early 20s, while out, (gorgeous young men), and when I told them they were just babies, and I was in my thirties, this had no phase on them, seemed more of a wow factor, and they were even more interested. Not the slightest hint of ageism, hangups about women, and it was so refreshing to interact with such non judgemental men.

I have yet to take a chance with a man who is 20 or 21. Are there any women here who do date much younger men and if so how did it go or how is it going?

 

From a biological perspective, you have motherly qualities and also are attractive. This is quite appealing to a young man. Women in their age range probably can't cook or nurture them.

[Cracker Jack]

Older women are simply sexy as hell. I see them all the time. I need to start showing more interest in them.

[mesmerized]

I asked some of my past guys about the kind of porn they watch and fetishes etc. They all mentioned older women lol none of these guys were unattractive or incapable of getting their own age or younger. Afterall, I was their own age.

[dasein]

There have been many threads on this issue full of men such as myself stating very clearly over and over that they prefer to date women closer to their own age. To no avail apparently.

[Woggle]

Women over 30, 40 and 50s get into relationships and get dates all the time. It is not nearly as much of an issue as women think it is. Sure some very wealthy like to buy a younger women as some status symbol but for most men it is not an issue.

[daphne]

I disagree with the beggars quote also. I get hit on by early 20 somethings all of the time. Many of them are extremly good looking. Granted, most of them don't realize that I'm not in my 20's anymore but they are still very respectful and interested even after they find out.

 

I agree that they aren't going to look for the same things with someone older than them, in general. However, a guy in his early 20's is not necessarily looking to settle down right away anyway. He's just looking for experience.

[123321]

I have read many posts of older men dating younger women, want women with no baggage, that once a woman passes 30 she is not desirable anymore.

 

Absolutely not true, as a younger guy I dated a lot of older women, just not with intentions to ever settle down with or marry one.

[ThaWholigan]

I want to date an older woman now .

[Taramere]

I'm in my forties, and I do often get younger men flirting with me. I tend to switch it around to a friendly but non-flirtatious vibe as quickly as I can. I'm just not comfortable with that situation. I dated a younger man for several years when I was in my thirties, and I wouldn't go there again. If I'm sleeping with somebody, it's because I love them...and for them to view me as an older practice model or box to tick off is, in my eyes, fairly callous and disrespectful treatment that I wouldn't knowingly go along with.

 

As for what the attraction to older women is for some men....well, while some men are adamant about preferring women under 30, a lot more are chiefly concerned with whether a woman is in shape. Plus, I suppose, this pervasive notion that older women are constantly gagging for it, like Samantha from Sex in the City.

[Brit]

I do not think I could date someone who is 20, but it was fun and enlightening that they were so interested even after revealing I was nowhere near their age. I also got the sense that they seemed like they may become easily attached.

Edited May 27, 2012 by Brit

[Emilia]

If I'm sleeping with somebody, it's because I love them...and for them to view me as an older practice model or box to tick off is, in my eyes, fairly callous and disrespectful treatment that I wouldn't knowingly go along with.

 

 

Don't you sleep with people out of curiousity? I've dated different types of men (younger or older) because I wanted the experience. I don't think that's callous or disrespectful since neither of us knew how it would pan out. It could have worked as well as not.