Nethuns Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 i have been dating this girl for 6 months now and i loved her early on and thought she was pretty and everything... recently i', starting to see her without eyeliner (she dooesnt wear anything else) and getting less attracted to her and today after seeing her considering whether or not to breakup. I know looks isn't everything in a relationship but she thinks i'm one of the most handsome guys she's seen (even though i dont think so) and i've asked her whether she'd date certain guys based on looks and she says its a huge factor, but if i see her without makeup and ask her to wear she gets upset and sensitive... what should i do edit: i dont mind if she doesnt wear it a few days here and there, but she seems to be getting lazy and wearing it less often.. i mite of been a bit confusing in my post Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 i have been dating this girl for 6 months now and i loved her early on and thought she was pretty and everything... recently i', starting to see her without eyeliner (she dooesnt wear anything else) and getting less attracted to her and today after seeing her considering whether or not to breakup. I know looks isn't everything in a relationship but she thinks i'm one of the most handsome guys she's seen (even though i dont think so) and i've asked her whether she'd date certain guys based on looks and she says its a huge factor, but if i see her without makeup and ask her to wear she gets upset and sensitive... what should i do edit: i dont mind if she doesnt wear it a few days here and there, but she seems to be getting lazy and wearing it less often.. i mite of been a bit confusing in my post Wow how shallow and superficial. Most men love a women with little to no makeup. Obviously she's not the right girl for you if you don't find her attractive without sh*t on her face. Time to move on. Maybe you should date a drag queen. They wear tons of makeup:D Link to post Share on other sites
mammamia1 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 That's harsh! And you said she only wore eyeliner ?!? How can eyeliner make such a huge difference?!? I should take note. How about hair getting messed up after sex or in early morning? Do guys mind that too? I try to keep my makeup to the minimum too, only eyeliner. Many girls have fake eyelash and lipstick and stuff... imagine how scary it'd be to see them without. To be fair, you did everything you could. You tried to put up with it. You told her the truth, she didn't want to change. Now you think you can't stand. If I were you, I'd move on to the next girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nethuns Posted November 19, 2011 Author Share Posted November 19, 2011 actually she hardly wears makeup as i said in my- just eyeliner and i like that.. i cant stand seeing girls looking like clowns anyways, but seeing her after work miserable and angry with no makeup was a turnoff... mabe just a bad day for the both of us but it does get me irritated wen we go out and she doesnt wear.. makes it seem like she doesnt really care about me.. not sure u being a chick wat do u think? Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 edit: i dont mind if she doesnt wear it a few days here and there, but she seems to be getting lazy and wearing it less often.. i mite of been a bit confusing in my post This is an issue with you not her. Most women don't look as good without makeup. When women get comfortable with you they stop wearing makeup as much... which isn't being lazy as much as just letting their guard down. Seriously I think if you were in love with this girl it wouldn't bother you much at all. Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 That's harsh! And you said she only wore eyeliner ?!? How can eyeliner make such a huge difference?!? I should take note. How about hair getting messed up after sex or in early morning? Do guys mind that too? I try to keep my makeup to the minimum too, only eyeliner. Many girls have fake eyelash and lipstick and stuff... imagine how scary it'd be to see them without. To be fair, you did everything you could. You tried to put up with it. You told her the truth, she didn't want to change. Now you think you can't stand. If I were you, I'd move on to the next girl. No, men love the "just f*cked" hair. And most guys love a girl with no makeup. My last boyfriend loved it when I didn't wear any. He preferred it actually. Some men love women for who they are, not the "face" they put on everyday. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 actually she hardly wears makeup as i said in my- just eyeliner and i like that.. i cant stand seeing girls looking like clowns anyways, but seeing her after work miserable and angry with no makeup was a turnoff... mabe just a bad day for the both of us but it does get me irritated wen we go out and she doesnt wear.. makes it seem like she doesnt really care about me.. not sure u being a chick wat do u think? Huh, the bolded happened and your sole concern about that was the makeup? Not the miserable and angry bit? You sound extremely inexperienced, and if you find you 'love someone less' without makeup you certainly shouldn't be trying to do a LTR at this point of time. Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 actually she hardly wears makeup as i said in my- just eyeliner and i like that.. i cant stand seeing girls looking like clowns anyways, but seeing her after work miserable and angry with no makeup was a turnoff... mabe just a bad day for the both of us but it does get me irritated wen we go out and she doesnt wear.. makes it seem like she doesnt really care about me.. not sure u being a chick wat do u think? She DOES care about you. She feels comfortable with you and she feels she doesn't need makeup. It's great when a relationship reaches that level. In my opinion it's great. It get tiring always having perfect hair and makeup. It's nice just to relax and be yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
mammamia1 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 @Nethuns: you know it's tough to look good after a rough day at work. I never meet someone right after work, for that reason. If look bothers u that much, that means u don't love her personality enough... then just break up with her. That's totally fine. I'm attractive and I often dated guys who (I think) are better looking than me. I never go without makeup around them (most of time just eyeliner). Especially if we go out. The same way around, if he doesn't dress up enough for me, I would say it and the guy would change immediately. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Forgive me for assuming, OP, but is this one of your first few GFs? If so, there can be some sticker shock when someone who has been used to seeing madeup women their whole lives gets close enough to see a woman without it frequently. It's not your fault, it's no one's fault. You may find yourself getting past this in time as you come to appreciate her natural femininity free of enhancement. Try to bear in there and give it some time. FWIW, pressing women to wear more makeup is generally a nonstarter, not a good "love builder" at all, try to avoid that going forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 (edited) Do you work for L'Oreal or something? Did that 89 year old French billionair Liliane Bettencourt set you up to this? "Because you're worth it." Edited November 19, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf18 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Ahahahahaha. All of the varginas who are constantly calling women the fairer sex and talking about how much more beautiful the average woman is have never seen a woman without makeup Sorry if men started wearing padded shirts, discreet height increasing shoes that make a 5'7 into 5'11, or those fake bulge attachments they used to sell at pornshops, women would be furious and disgusted. You're lucky men let you use game genie on your looks . Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Do you work for L'Oreal or something? Did that 89 year old French billionair Liliane Bettencourt set you up to this? "Because you're worth it." "Maybe she was born with or maybe it's Maybelline" Hahahahahahaha:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Offer to pay for tattooed eyeliner -- win-win. I wonder how people would respond if he said his girlfriend wore badly applied makeup (Amy Winehouse eyeliner and Lucy lipliner) and it turned him off. Would they say to accept it or date someone else? I agree with most men on this issue. It's one thing to not wear makeup at night at home but if you are going out, it's part of being well groomed. If being well groomed was part of the initial attraction, then of course it's a let down and false advertising. Like always wearing skirts, dresses, clingy sweaters but then once you've snagged the guy, only wearing sweats and sneakers. I love makeup and I've never had a man object because I make a point of knowing how to apply it so it looks natural. The only makeup nearly all men hate is goopy lip gloss. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Obviously she's not the right girl for you if you don't find her attractive without sh*t on her face. Time to move on. Maybe you should date a drag queen. They wear tons of makeup:D I love you, Shannon. Seriously I think if you were in love with this girl it wouldn't bother you much at all. Yep. Some men love women for who they are, not the "face" they put on everyday. Yep. You want your girlfriend to put on a mask for you. You obviously don't love her for who she is as a person. Let her go so she can find someone who really loves her. Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 You're lucky men let you use game genie on your looks . OK now that's funny. I had to google "game genie." Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Nethuns, women are real people. They can't be sex/beauty goddesses 24/7. And the pressure for us to be is crazy. Don't add to that pressure. I suggest you google female celebrities without make up. Get to know what women look like when they don't have to wear make up. And learn to appreciate the beauty in a woman without make up. Because your never going to be with a woman that wears make up 24/7. Unless she is Pamela Lee Anderson..and when women don't wash their face of make up..their skin usually ends up looking dull and crappy. All in all, I don't think you sound too into your girlfriend and this could be an excuse to break up with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf18 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 You want your girlfriend to put on a mask for you. You obviously don't love her for who she is as a person. Let her go so she can find someone who really loves her. [/Quote] Oh yeah Ruby Slippers, I'm sure you wouldn't care if one of your boyfriends lost 6 inches of height overnight or was unemployed for 2 years. Yes that is how radically different many women look with and without makeup. Get down from your high horse, or you might just get christopher reeve'd. Link to post Share on other sites
toastboy Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 If you're questioning an entire relationship over a bit of eye liner then she certainly isn't right for you. Not to mention the fact that if you really cared about her, after she's had a bad day at work her makeup definitely wouldn't be the first thing on your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 lol this seems trolly Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 Some people like make up more than others, but it is pretty important to love your girlfriend's face even without makeup. If you don't, let her find someone who does. It doesn't sounds like she WANTS to wear makeup all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovewater Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 Then, do your girlfriend a favor. Leave her and go find yourself another girl who wears make-up 24/7. Those girls do exist. What's so disturbing about your post is that you care more about your girlfriend not looking great after a day of work then her being miserable and tired. I've never met anyone who looks oh-my-god-astonishing after a miserable day at work. Do you look 110% all the time for her too? If not, shut up, grow up, and learn to treat and love her as a person. If you can't be around her during her bad times (and I don't even consider what you described bad times), what will you do when worse things come up? Link to post Share on other sites
Avarage Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 Funny how everyone seems to be skipping over this part and just attacking the guy: i've asked her whether she'd date certain guys based on looks and she says its a huge factor I'd say its time to end the relationship. Not because your a horrible person as some people are saying but more because you've seriously considered ending it already. BTW how would women like it if a guy stopped shaving but once a month after they started dating? It's okay to relax when in a relationship but when going on dates to fancy places a partner should put some effort into look, if your doing the same. You only get out what you put in. Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 I'm sure I'm the outlier here... but the men who are most attracted to me love it that I wear little or no makeup. In fact, I work hard not to need it. I do wear it when the occasion calls for it. I have a closet full of evening gowns and am quite skilled at makeup application. But to me, there is a time and place. I don't wear it everyday. I do my best to get good sleep, drink lots of water, exercise regularly. There ain't no makeup better than good health. Whether a guy shaves every day? I really couldn't care less. As long as he doesn't smell like a barnyard animal and have bad breath, he's A-OK with me. And some men smell BETTER to me after working up a good sweat (preferably horizontally). Yea, those pheromones... gotta love it!! The OP's question falls into the area of personal preference... If she isn't obsessed about keeping makeup on 24/7 and he can't get over the need for something artificial... then it isn't a match. No biggie. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 (edited) Oh yeah Ruby Slippers, I'm sure you wouldn't care if one of your boyfriends lost 6 inches of height overnight or was unemployed for 2 years. Yes that is how radically different many women look with and without makeup. The last guy I went out with was a little shorter than me, and I didn't give a crap and neither did he. I think he's incredibly sexy and really don't care that he's shorter. But I don't see what being unemployed has to do with wearing makeup. Are you suggesting it's women's job to wear makeup? Because the only people getting paid in this arrangement are the cosmetics corporations, which torture animals to test their products and charge insane prices for bottles and tubes of wax and other crap to contaminate your skin with. I play the game to an extent, too, but let's be real here about makeup really is. It's an expensive charade that fools and lures men who are too brainwashed to think for themselves. He doesn't really love her, plain and simple. Edited November 20, 2011 by Ruby Slippers Link to post Share on other sites
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