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Old 18th September 2011, 1:56 PM   #1
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Girlfriend kissed another guy when she was drunk,

My girlfriend of 1 year and 8 months was at a party just a get together of her and girls, and she never drinks and she drank that night and I fell asleep around 2 at home, and I guess at this thing only 1 guy came over which was one of her old friends and everyone else was friends with him too, and she doesnt remember anything but she has stories from the guy that kissed her and a friend that seen it happening. Everyone was going to bed and they were in the basement on a bed on the floor and her friend passed out on the couch right by them, and only her and him were awake and her friend that was someplace else, and when they finished watching the movie I guess he kissed her and she made out with him for 5 minutes then stopped and puked on the floor next to the bed, and they slept on that bed together not touching or anything after, also at the time they were kissing her friend that seen didnt do anyything she was just surprised and just didnt do anything, I woke up and texted her then after my 1st text she called and told me and I was broken and felt so betrayed because all the time she says I don't trust her and that I should and when things start going fine she messes it up. She also found out from the guy that after the 5min of making out she stopped and said he tasted gross and was the worst kisser and then puked and for the rest of the time after she was making fun of him and how he can't kiss. Like what could have caused her to do so, and the guy went for the kiss, and it blows my mind that she went with it. She said she drank too much and doesn;t remember a thing so the story is from the guys side and friend which sucks, can somebody please give some advice.
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Old 18th September 2011, 2:02 PM   #2
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Is this the first time this happen with this girl of 1 year. Do you love her or does she love you? The issue here is trust? She goes to a party and got drunk and kissed another guy maybe she thought was you, but then soon realize it wasn't you. Could be an accident. How come you weren't with her at this party? You could give her a second chance it's up to you really. How you feel about this going to be on you. Kissing it nothing if she did more then you have to worry about it. Then you couldn't trust her again. If she did it once she'll do it again if she's drunk.
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Old 18th September 2011, 2:06 PM   #3
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My girlfriend of 1 year and 8 months was at a party just a get together of her and girls, and she never drinks and she drank that night and I fell asleep around 2 at home, and I guess at this thing only 1 guy came over which was one of her old friends and everyone else was friends with him too, and she doesnt remember anything but she has stories from the guy that kissed her and a friend that seen it happening. Everyone was going to bed and they were in the basement on a bed on the floor and her friend passed out on the couch right by them, and only her and him were awake and her friend that was someplace else, and when they finished watching the movie I guess he kissed her and she made out with him for 5 minutes then stopped and puked on the floor next to the bed, and they slept on that bed together not touching or anything after, also at the time they were kissing her friend that seen didnt do anyything she was just surprised and just didnt do anything, I woke up and texted her then after my 1st text she called and told me and I was broken and felt so betrayed because all the time she says I don't trust her and that I should and when things start going fine she messes it up. She also found out from the guy that after the 5min of making out she stopped and said he tasted gross and was the worst kisser and then puked and for the rest of the time after she was making fun of him and how he can't kiss. Like what could have caused her to do so, and the guy went for the kiss, and it blows my mind that she went with it. She said she drank too much and doesn;t remember a thing so the story is from the guys side and friend which sucks, can somebody please give some advice.
This isn't true.

Also, why would the guy she kissed tell her after that she'd told him he's a crap kisser? She probably did say it but that's because she can remember, no guy would tell a girl he kissed 'you said I tasted gross and I was the worst kisser ever'.

She can remember what happened and she's trying damage limitation. End it.
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Sorry, I don't have any advice. I'd be shook up if my SO did that and would think that doing this while drunk just shows that this is something under the surface all the time. There is no "the alcohol made me do it". I don't understand all you aid so I can' say any more about how to deal. It just ain't good.
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She also found out from the guy that after the 5min of making out she stopped and said he tasted gross and was the worst kisser and then puked and for the rest of the time after she was making fun of him and how he can't kiss.
If he was so horrible, she certainly wouldn't make out with him for 5 minutes.

She's trying to soften the blow. Up to you, I would bail though.
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Why isn't the boy friend with his girl at this party? How your going to let her go to a party and get drunk with guys trying to hit on her.
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Sorry, I don't have any advice. I'd be shook up if my SO did that and would think that doing this while drunk just shows that this is something under the surface all the time. There is no "the alcohol made me do it". I don't understand all you aid so I can' say any more about how to deal. It just ain't good.
Agreed. If you can't behave you shouldn't be drinking.
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Yes we love eachother and at the beginning of the night she said it was only girls there and so I didn;t want to go cause it was just them hanging out drinking then that 1 guy just showed up later on. Also everytime she drinks I say don't drink too much because I don't want you to blackout cause something might happen, like what just happened. So she said shes never going to drink and I asked why she didnt go to this party lastnight and she said she doesnt trust herself.
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Why isn't the boy friend with his girl at this party? How your going to let her go to a party and get drunk with guys trying to hit on her.
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Yes.
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Read the post I just put up
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So she said shes never going to drink and I asked why she didnt go to this party lastnight and she said she doesnt trust herself.
She lacks self-control and isn't afraid to admit it.

Cards really uncover her persona. Really, her kissing this guy is a blessing, you find out sooo much about her, you can make pretty well informed decision.
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Yes we love eachother and at the beginning of the night she said it was only girls there and so I didn;t want to go cause it was just them hanging out drinking then that 1 guy just showed up later on. Also everytime she drinks I say don't drink too much because I don't want you to blackout cause something might happen, like what just happened. So she said shes never going to drink and I asked why she didnt go to this party lastnight and she said she doesnt trust herself.

That's what girls can't go to girls parties to get drunk and have a guy show-up so she can flirt with him while she's so drunk. She's going to do it again and again. She can't go without for now on to these parties.. If you do let her go she's do it again. Or she should quit drinking beer. One or the other.
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So she said shes never going to drink and I asked why she didnt go to this party lastnight and she said she doesnt trust herself.
First off, she's totally LYING about "not remembering anything." I suspect the only reason she's told you anything is because she's afraid that her friend who was in the same room who saw them kissing might tell someone who might tell you. It's called damage control.

Secondly, does it even make a lick of sense that a guy is going to have a 5 minute make-out session with a girl and then tell her (or anyone!) that she claimed he couldn't kiss/tasted gross? That's all crap that SHE made up.

Now the fact that she claims to be avoiding parties because she doesn't "trust herself"...........that's kind of a big red flag, don't you think? How can you trust her when she apparently doesn't even trust HERSELF to behave and be committed/loyal only to you?
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The young lady is a good story-teller. Who 'never drinks' and then gets drunk one night and kisses a man and sleeps with him in a bed apparently at her own home? From the tone and details of the story, it sounds like some parents need to get involved. Anyone there of legal drinking age?

Here's some apparent inconsistency:
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Also everytime she drinks I say don't drink too much because I don't want you to blackout cause something might happen, like what just happened. So she said shes never going to drink and I asked why she didnt go to this party lastnight and she said she doesnt trust herself.
Which is it? She never drinks or 'everytime she drinks'?

Think of alcohol as sodium amytal. It functions, in part, as 'truth serum'. Her behaviors while drinking are a true representation of part of her personality. Up to you whether that part, or the part which impels you to caution her about drinking to blackout, is healthy for you in a LTR. Good luck
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Old 18th September 2011, 3:15 PM   #15
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I definitely agree with basically everyone in this thread. The story just doesn't make much sense to me,I think she's trying to jerk you around. I've only been blackout drunk once, I still remember bits and pieces. It's more like a kind of foggy memory, not a total gap... In my situation at least.

I'd look at it this way. She was at this party and a guy was flirting with her, you were the last thing on her mind. She kissed this guy then went to bed with him instead of calling you.

I honestly believe these types of situations tend to recur.
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