mercedesgirl Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 would it be reasonable for me to ask my boyfriend of 4 months why he finished with his last girlfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
murah989 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 What is context of asking a question like this? Is there an absolute reason you need to know why things didn't work out? Or are you just curious? There's nothing wrong with asking questions such as these. However, it may be a sensitive issue with him. I would say tread lightly. Is there any other information you can provide? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mercedesgirl Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 the reasoning behind my question is that he lived with his girlfriend for 3 years. last year he said they ended their relationship, but continued to live in the same house. I wanted to know what made them decide to end te relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 would it be reasonable for me to ask my boyfriend of 4 months why he finished with his last girlfriend? 'What did you learn from your last relationship?' Link to post Share on other sites
Author mercedesgirl Posted January 18, 2011 Author Share Posted January 18, 2011 speaking to my OH tonite about his 'ex' being his 'friend' on Facebook and I told him that it bothered me that she was on there. He said that he would delete her if I wanted him to, I said yes I did want him to. I feel good for talking to him about it, but not sure if I've ruined our relationship because of it. Do you think I was wrong in agreeing for him to delete her, but he did ask me? Link to post Share on other sites
Knittress Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I think it's weirdly insecure and uncool to control a partner's communication with an ex. Especially with something as innocuous as facebook. But hey, it's also pretty common... Link to post Share on other sites
callingyouuu Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I think it's weirdly insecure and uncool to control a partner's communication with an ex. Especially with something as innocuous as facebook. But hey, it's also pretty common... I agree; it's a bit strange, and I wouldn't take it very well unless we were in a very committed relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 would it be reasonable for me to ask my boyfriend of 4 months why he finished with his last girlfriend? In my opinion, yes. You could ask him what went wrong in his last relationship and that the reason you're asking is that you don't want to make the same mistake with him in your current relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Don't make a big thing of it or anything, but yes, speaking about lessons learned/what went wrong in previous relationships is reasonable at that stage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mercedesgirl Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 thanks for your replies. I suppose it is because Im a bit insecure, consdiering that he said he cant stand her and doesnt want anything to do with her!!!!!! anyways, he still hasnt deleted her from his 'friend' list, do I assume he's not going to now! Link to post Share on other sites
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