nysugarlips Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Hi everyone, So Im flying to meet a guy I met here in NY and have kept in contact with online. Im flying from NY to Cali to see him. He has long term potential. Here's the prob, Ive met another really cool guy recently who wants me to fly to meet him. They're both in Cali, mins apart from each other. My question, is it wrong/ bad to meet guy no.2 ?? We're all single. Guy no. 1 is paying for my plane tix and Im paying for the hotel. To be fair I would be a lil jealous/annoyed if he flew to see me and saw another woman as well. HELPPPPPPPPPPPPP! :love:
Geishawhelk Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Let them come to you. If they want you enough - they'll come. Sorted.
refurb Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 A guy pays for the plane ticket for you to come and see him and you're asking if OK for you to see another guy while you're there? Do him a favor and break up with him. RF
Geishawhelk Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 .....To be fair I would be a lil jealous/annoyed if he flew to see me and saw another woman as well. HELPPPPPPPPPPPPP! :love: Well there's your answer! :rolleyes: By the way - I love your location: "Capital of the world".... Hilarious!!
Author nysugarlips Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 Ok- thought Id get outside opinions- RF- no need to be so aggressive. thank you all.
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 OP, if you're all single and no sex has been involved yet, why not? You don't "owe" guy #1 anything just because he was generous enough to "buy" you an airline ticket. I "buy" award flights for friends all the time and do it for a myriad of reasons, none of which involve "owing" me. If he's doing it to get into your knickers, that's his problem, not yours. Just go see the guys and have a good time. No sex
Author nysugarlips Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 Id like to clarify- He's buying HALF of the plane ticket, if that matters. He has also admitted to talking to another woman or 2 but nothing serious as have I. again, thanks for the opinions. thanks Carhill. No sex, just meeting and then who knows.
Throne Of Lies Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I don't see any problem with going to see the other dude. I'd still keep it on the sly though-- you know how delicate things can be in the beginning.
refurb Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Id like to clarify- He's buying HALF of the plane ticket, if that matters. He has also admitted to talking to another woman or 2 but nothing serious as have I. again, thanks for the opinions. thanks Carhill. No sex, just meeting and then who knows. Jesus! Way to leave out important information!! In that case I don't think it would be wrong at all. RF
Adri Ana Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 To say in simple and plain words, its just too dishonest to meet another guy, when the guy no.1 is paying for your tix to fly. Dun do that . And if you want to meet the second guy so so much , then just sort all out yourself who is more worth and how much .
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 OP, since he's been honest about entertaining other ladies, it's quite polite and reasonable to reciprocate that honesty. Guy #2 is a "friend" you're stopping by to visit while out visiting him. Perfectly normal. No subterfuge. Everything right out there. After all, that's the kind of relationship you'd want to have with either of the men, if things moved in that direction, right?
lovestruck818 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Does anyone else besides me think this is absolutely crazy and retarted to be doing? Fly across the country to meet someone you don't know? Google Natalie Hathaway & Laura Garza & tell me what you find. How do you know this guy is not a total creep?
Author nysugarlips Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 OK, sticking o guy No 1 only. Will NOT meet or see guy No. 2 at all. Thank you all for your wonderful insight and opinions. Dear 818- As far as googling those women, things happen. That woman/ man you meet at a bar could be a psycho. That guy you just cut off could be one too. We've been talking for close to 3 mos, including video and phone calls to and from work and home. Thanks for your concern. PS- Internet dating, live a little!
Author nysugarlips Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Carhill, Thank you! I agree but Im going to stick with my No. 1.
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 No worries. My purpose is presenting alternative possibilities for exploration. Safe travels to my part of this little world
lovestruck818 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 OK, sticking o guy No 1 only. Will NOT meet or see guy No. 2 at all. Thank you all for your wonderful insight and opinions. Dear 818- As far as googling those women, things happen. That woman/ man you meet at a bar could be a psycho. That guy you just cut off could be one too. We've been talking for close to 3 mos, including video and phone calls to and from work and home. Thanks for your concern. PS- Internet dating, live a little! I agree you can meet a creep anywhere. It's a bit easier to get away & get help when it's in an area you are familiar with. It's not like you can exactly "go right home" should anything happen.
movingonandon Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Hmm, not exaclty on topic, but there've been some threads on people flying to see other people and I wonder - why on earth fly coast to coast just to talk to somebody? Are they REALLY that exceptional, better than anybody in whole new york? I don't want to rain on anybody's parade, I just wonder what could possibly justify such a huge inconvenience, particularly with people you just met. I'd understand a temporary LDR dur to circumstances, but taking such trips seems like a big inconvenience for a very uncertaint payoff. And I love to travel . But dating is hard enough when people are in your backyard
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I've seen numerous NYC LS'ers comment on the difficulties of dating in NYC. This is echoed by single friends I know there IRL, whom I've gotten know by *gasp* climbing onto a red-eye to sleep instead of my own bed, and visiting them (and vice-versa). As someone who loves to travel, I can imagine that the travel (transportation) part is largely irrelevant for you. It's the exploration of the destination that is exciting. Hey, if you can meet a friend or two at that destination and have a local to show you around, maybe with a bit of fun and flirtation to boot, why not?
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