musicislife Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Hey, I'm curious on what everyone things about this situation I went throught. I'm a 24 y/o straight male and thing I'm sending some signal to one of my friends. I grew up in a family where physical contact between two people even of the same gender was normal. As long as it did not occur below the waist of above knee. Such things as hugging, pats on the back, arms on each other's shoulder. It never was a big deal. Well, the other day my friend Brad and I were visiting out friend Sam at a campground. We had to cram in the back of our friends car and she had her arm on the seat behind my back and joked about it. So me, being funny decided to put my arm behind Brad's back and he went nuts saying "Get your had off my back" which was weird because he is never stern like this about anything and all I meant was joking. I do notice this in other things like he is paranoid about other people touching him, sometimes even girls. Did I do something wrong? Is there a reason he rejects physical touch. I mean I could totally understand if I had grabbed his ass or balls but I didn't. All I did was put my arm around his shoulders like many friends (even guys) will due. Even in high school I did this with my guy friends and we would joke about it. It's like a straight way of showing physical emotion and is not suppose to be taken sexually. Can anyone shine some light on the subject for me. I did email him and aplogize for freaking him out. But I still don't see why he would freak out like that. Thanks in advance for any help you all can provide. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 But I still don't see why he would freak out like that. He freaked because he took it as you coming on to him.. Simple. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 He isn't comfortable with people (mainly men) touching him. He probably has been brought up that guys aren't affectionate with eachother. It's funny, but most of the guys my husband and I know, including some of his friends, are all affectionate. They hug eachother (not all the time, don't get me wrong) and stuff. Guess it depends on the person... Link to post Share on other sites
Author musicislife Posted June 19, 2006 Author Share Posted June 19, 2006 Yeah, I see your point. He grew up in a house with 3 brothers and his Mom and Dad. His Mom not being the most affectionate and his Dad neither. I guess that could be it. What should I do? Should I maybe talk to him about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 Should I maybe talk to him about it? Let it go.. it will be old news in a day or two.. just remember not to hug him Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 Nope. Don't say a word about it. AC is right, let it go....Just act like it never happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 Some guys are just extremely homophobic. And prolly half of the ones that are homophobic are closet dwellers. I've met people like this. I would just go on as nothing happened and it will die. Just don't touch him anymore and things should be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 19, 2006 Share Posted June 19, 2006 Some guys are just extremely homophobic. And prolly half of the ones that are homophobic are closet dwellers. I agree. Brad is probably a latent homosexual. Just kidding... He should loosen up though, but not to the point where it makes you uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
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