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Old 9th November 2017, 5:09 AM   #16
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I guess I am differnet. I meet a new woman that I am dating. I am not going to be concerned with her male friends. At age 46. I am not into that. If would be one thing if JC and I had a romantic relationship and were on a heavy day to day basis.

Not a friendship where we only get together 4-5 times a year.
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Old 9th November 2017, 5:30 AM   #17
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I guess she was gung-ho about meeting you as usual but her bf put a spoke in the works.
The "thinking it over", "more comfortable", "respect" came across as stilted and weird as they were not really where she is at, but where her bf is at.
Those, I guess are his words and her reactions to his words.
This is his "big deal", not hers.
I guess she is peeved in reality. and embarrassed that this innocent meet up is seen by him as an excuse for her to cheat on him....

He, on the other hand, no doubt went "Wtf, who is this male "friend"?"
Although YOU and SHE know there is nothing going on, HE doesn't, so he is just mate guarding...
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Old 9th November 2017, 6:12 AM   #18
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Elaine. Your right on the money. I saw a pic of him. He does not seem that way. He has got to know that she has some male friends. She is with her GF's more than her Guy Friends. When we were planning things. She did not mention him. Its only a week or so after that plans were not finalized that she did this Operatic Txt.

I will meet him. I want to meet him. I just kind of wish she would have been a little bit more cut and dry.
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Old 9th November 2017, 10:47 AM   #19
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Hi Mysterio. You are thinking about this in the wrong way. This has absolutely nothing to do with you. You should not take it personally.

This girl is my hero. She is very cool and thoughtful. I wish my ex acted like her. My ex had a guy (gay friend she said) sleep over and never asked me if that would make me feel uncomfortable. Never offered to have me meet the guy. Nothing. Just told me it was going to happen. It completely sunk our relationship. I never trusted her after that.

Basically your girl "friend" is dating someone she cares about. Out of respect for HIM (this has nothing to do with you) she doesn't want HIM to feel uncomfortable in any way. This is about her relationship with him and making HIM feel comfortable. That is her #1 priority in life and that is the way it should be. She is doing the right thing. Your reply should be "Sure whatever makes you feel comfortable". Don't analyze it any more than that. She is probably acting the same way towards any male friend in her life. This is not anything unique or personal with you.
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