Only one from small group not invited to wedding

[jasha]

I am so upset, a couple at my church and in my small group got married and had this wedding and invited everyone from my small group except me. I know this because I saw pictures of everyone from my small group at the wedding. This was after I talked to my pastor about whether it was open invite bc I didnt get an invitation and he said it was invitation only and that I wasnt the only one not invited. But looking at the pictures I see that isnt true. So then I messaged him and told him I saw everyone from small group that goes regurarly there. He listed a few names of people that weren't invited, but they don't come very often (with the exception of this one guy and this girl who just started coming a few few months ago). That doesnt matter to me because I have been going regularly, Im a girl and have been going for a long time and I was the only one out of the group of girls that goes regurarly that isnt new that was not invited. That is what makes me feel like there is something wrong with me because I was the only girlone out of the core group not invited, like do they have something against me or does somebody else in the group have something against me and they wanted them there and didnt want them feeling uncomfortable around me? I dont know. But I was the only girl who has been coming a year that attends regurarly that wasn't invited. I had specifically asked him before the wedding if there were other people that go regurarly to small group that weren't invited and he said a whole bunch. One guy and one new person isn't a whole bunch. Why would he say this? And why was I the only girl that attends regurarly not invited? And he had access to the guest list to know who was invited? Why would he know the guest list? He was officiating the wedding, but still, does the officiant usually know the guest list?

[LivingWaterPlease]

It may be that those out of your small group who were invited had known the couple much longer than you have, even before your small group began meeting.

 

Weddings are expensive so possibly they were trying to invite only those who have been close to the couple for a long time.

[stillafool]

It is up to the couple who they want at their wedding. Sorry you are upset but they have every right to have who they want there. Are you really close friends with the couple who married? If so, be upset with them not the Pastor. Personally if someone didn't invite me to their wedding I would not question it but move on as it isn't the end of the world.

[basil67]

I'm pretty sure you're the poster who previously posted under a different name(s) citing other issues with the church group. And I'm going to post accordingly.

 

For whatever reason, they don't like you. I know it's hurtful and frustrating, but asking people why you're not invited will only serve to make things worse. Stop trying to be friends with people who aren't interested in friendship.

 

How about moving to a new church with new people? Make a new start.

[whichwayisup]

I am so upset, a couple at my church and in my small group got married and had this wedding and invited everyone from my small group except me. I know this because I saw pictures of everyone from my small group at the wedding. This was after I talked to my pastor about whether it was open invite bc I didnt get an invitation and he said it was invitation only and that I wasnt the only one not invited. But looking at the pictures I see that isnt true. So then I messaged him and told him I saw everyone from small group that goes regurarly there. He listed a few names of people that weren't invited, but they don't come very often (with the exception of this one guy and this girl who just started coming a few few months ago). That doesnt matter to me because I have been going regularly, Im a girl and have been going for a long time and I was the only one out of the group of girls that goes regurarly that isnt new that was not invited. That is what makes me feel like there is something wrong with me because I was the only girlone out of the core group not invited, like do they have something against me or does somebody else in the group have something against me and they wanted them there and didnt want them feeling uncomfortable around me? I dont know. But I was the only girl who has been coming a year that attends regurarly that wasn't invited. I had specifically asked him before the wedding if there were other people that go regurarly to small group that weren't invited and he said a whole bunch. One guy and one new person isn't a whole bunch. Why would he say this? And why was I the only girl that attends regurarly not invited? And he had access to the guest list to know who was invited? Why would he know the guest list? He was officiating the wedding, but still, does the officiant usually know the guest list?

 

Are you friends with this couple? Do you socialize and hang out with them outside of the Church?

 

I understand you feel hurt but realize that their intention wasn't to hurt you or make you feel left out - It is possible they just didn't want to invite every single person from the Church group so unfortunately you were one of the bunch who didn't get an invite. Weddings are expensive and I'm sure there was lots of their other friends and family there so they just had to cut some people.

 

Please try not to let this upset you and just wish them well.