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Hello community, I am in my late 20's, male and I live by myself in New York City. I'm dating someone with a very demanding job and basically see her only on weekends.

 

During the week, my job ebbs and flows, so I'll have some weeks where I can leave the office at 6pm and have the whole night free and others where I am working constantly.

 

My question is - how have y'all made friends in your late 20's? It's obviously much harder...and all my male friends are settling down or slowing down even if they're not married. They don't want to go out at all during the week.

 

Any advice for things you've done?

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La.Primavera

The best option is to join a club that you are interested in, whether it be sports or some kind of a hobby. That way you can socialize with people who have similar interests. There are so many different groups out there. Try a few and have fun.

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Just go to a local bar.

No need to drink, just get some water or food if it is they serve any.

When you see someone intriguing, approach them like you would anyone and start a conversation with them.

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I've made all my friends either through work or through going to sci fi conventions, which would basically amount to a meet up group or something similar.

 

So I'd suggest trying that!

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You're certainly right about it being harder to make friends in your late 20s. It's still possible though. As some of the previous posts have said, meetup is a great tool.

Two things from my own experience, that some people may be a little hesitant to get involved in, but I have found very helpful in finding like minded people, are acting classes and joining a political party. Now I realise you probably have little interest in neither acting nor politics, however I guarantee that you will find very passionate and outgoing people in both these areas. Especially acting classes.

 

I'm not saying you should take a six month intensive course in Meissner technique. Maybe just an acting basics or improv class that runs for a few weeks during the evening. You literally live in the greatest city on earth (especially when it comes to theatre/film) so you're going to find an endless list of studios and schools that will provide classes.

I've taken a lot of acting classes, and I can honestly say that every single one of them, regardless of the location or specific type, was filled with people who were eager to socialize and hang out long after the class had finished. Whether it was just going to a bar to hang out or maybe going to see a movie or a show, there were always people keen.

 

Now I know that politics turns a lot of people off, which is fair enough, but if you're willing to take a chance, you'll probably find that you might enjoy the company of a group of passionate people who share the same values and beliefs as you. And that's the important part. Make sure you work out roughly where you stand on political issues. Don't join the republicans if you are passionate about gay rights and climate change. And of course don't get involved with the democrats if you're anti gun control and pro war. Keep in mind you don't necessarily have to join a major party. There are a ridiculous amount of minor parties out there. Maybe you're a libertarian. Maybe you're a socialist. Maybe you're an anarchist. Whatever your political leanings are, there's a party for you.

 

So once you figure out where you stand, all you have to do next is find your parties website or social media and sign up to get involved. Usually they will have monthly meetings and events (especially the major parties). You'll be surprised how many people you'll find in their mid to late 20s at these events. Similarly to acting classes, people at party events will be keen to exchange details. Not only for things like petition signings or door knocking, but social networking in general.

 

I realise that this is a pretty long post, and you may find most of my advice useless, but I feel like we are both at a similar stage in our lives, and that these same activities might just work for you too.

 

Anyway, best of luck!

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