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When you run into someone who you know for a couple of years (be it friend, classmate, colleague, teacher, etc) after not seeing them for some time and you say hi to them they act rude, pretend like they haven't noticed you and/or don't socialise with you.

 

Even if you made some connection with the other person they don't treat you the same as you do in your greeting.

 

Why do people do this?

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amaysngrace

Maybe they're having an ugly day and wish you hadn't seen them?

 

:confused:

 

I have no idea but it definitely happens.

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They might be feeling really awkward socially and don't know how to act.

 

Maybe you didn't speak loudly enough and they didn't see you or hear you.

 

Maybe they don't want to see or talk to anyone at that moment; they could be in a bad or nervous mood.

 

They may not remember you.

 

They may not like you.

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Some do it just to be intentionally rude, they may just be having a bad day, might not know what to say, or they're so wrapped up in what's going on in their own lives, they just don't notice you.

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I spent years praying not to see someone I knew. I felt ugly and inferior and embarrassed about my life. I grew out of it but I bet I was 'that person' at times. Sorry :)

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NoMagicBullet

Well, each situation is different. Were you really all that close? Why haven't you stayed in contact?

 

A few years ago, a close friend of mine started flaking on me, saying she'd call me but not do it, or not returning my calls until a week later. This didn't go on too long before I stopped initiating contact, and she didn't step up and make an effort to keep the friendship. So it died, I accepted that she didn't want me as a friend anymore, and I moved on.

 

Now, if I saw this person again, I'd be civil enough, but I'm not going to be ecstatic to see them. Even if we were close once, we're not now, and I'm not going to pretend otherwise. I suppose this former friend could interpret my coolness as rudeness, but I'm just not going to jump up and down with joy to see someone who chose not to keep a connection with me.

 

I'd say to understand the situation better, look at the history of the situation and see that the other person might have a different perspective on why they aren't happy to see you.

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