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Old 20th June 2011, 3:59 PM   #1
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For people who can't make friends at all, have you ever had a relationship/bf/gf?

Just wondering how important the ability is to make friends, is for getting someone of the opposite sex.
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Old 20th June 2011, 4:09 PM   #2
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I make friends easily & have not been in a relationship.
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Old 20th June 2011, 4:12 PM   #3
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Huge part. Often, it's social occasions which come about through friends which offer additional opportunities to meet potential romantic interests.

Example: My best friend and I remodeled a mutual friend's bathroom at his beach house. He and his wife gave me a key and carte blanche to use it when it's empty. So, I hop into my old car, throw my bike on the roof and head to the beach for a couple days. While riding around and walking the beach I meet some ladies. Bla, bla

Had I not had the friend, a generous one at that, I would have never met the ladies. This doesn't even count all the ladies who stop by when we're having parties there as a group.

Friends are a really worthwhile and mutually satisfying relationship to have.

IMO, if you can't be a good friend to someone and build a healthy friendship, healthy relationships of the romantic sort will always elude you.
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Old 20th June 2011, 4:42 PM   #4
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It is central. All of my relationships stemmed from social activity/friends. I am not a beauty. It's my personality that draws men and even that was obscured by severe social anxiety for many years.

Once I was able to break free enough and socialise, finding people to date was not as difficult as previously imagined. I would attend workshops for S.A., or support groups and establish casual connections. Those led to relaxed socialising which in turn, exposed men to my personality. From there, I received dates. A few were parlayed into relationships.

My advice would be to work on your S.A. then get thee to a S.A. meetup. Practice socialising. Make some new friends. From there, expand your circle a bit. Let the women of the world hear Ross's inner workings. You'll have success.
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Old 20th June 2011, 5:25 PM   #5
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My advice would be to work on your S.A. then get thee to a S.A. meetup. Practice socialising. Make some new friends. From there, expand your circle a bit. Let the women of the world hear Ross's inner workings. You'll have success.
Yup, probably something I'll do.
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Old 24th June 2011, 3:08 AM   #6
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I make friends just fine - and I have no problem in this area.

Never have had a relationship though - and I'm 31! Yet everyone else my age and younger gets into relationships like CLOCKWORK - I swear one day they're not in one the next day they are. Freaking nuts.

Come on life!!! What the @#$!@ about me!!

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Old 24th June 2011, 4:41 AM   #7
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I've never been a particularly sociable person, and I've dated plenty. I'm female though, and reasonably attractive, so men approach me on that basis and are generally not bothered how many friends I have. Women may view things slightly differently; it wouldn't bother me if a guy wasn't sociable because I'm not sociable myself, but I know that some other women see it as a really important thing.

Regardless, you still have to be out there to meet people you might want to date, and most people go out with friends. If you don't have people to go out with, you need to join some sort of social group or class just to help you meet potential dates, and at least make some acquaintances.
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Old 24th June 2011, 1:30 PM   #8
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I have never been close to a relationship.
I have potential to make friends but it just never works out, especially lately. I've had friends but they've bailed on me. I think I'm a good friend but my lack of social activities does result in lack of a love life. Sad but true.
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