wants to socialize, i don't

[darkmoon]

in my organisation is a manager, not top brass, who is friendly to me, so much do that i have a feeling she wants to socialize with me, i not like her enough to do this, we chat at work, ok, am polite and smiley, but do not want to make friends, we have nothing in common, nor do i trust her, my gut says i will regret ever making friends with her

 

so what to say? what get out?

Edited September 25, 2014 by darkmoon

[preraph]

Just look very busy and don't be as smiley and friendly, but you must remain polite. Tell her you're busy.

[d0nnivain]

Don't say anything. Tackling this head on his bad. Avoidance is your best bet. Be polite & professional during work hours. Do not discuss personal things with her & do not spend time out of work with her. Those actions will speak more eloquently than any words.

[Rock Chick]

I agree with d0nnivain and if he pushes just be honest and say you prefer to keep your professional and personal life separate, that it is not personal but experience has lead to you make this choice.

[herself]

Might as well make the most of it and ask for a promotion, lol kidding.

Seriously maybe when you see her talk about work, tell her you have alot to do and don't have time to talk.

If she invites you out tell her I appreciate the offer but spend my time with friends and family or your personal preference is not to meet ANY coworkers outside of work..that way it doesn't become personal.

Don't smile and be so engaging. Pick up the phone to make a call or make your greeting quick but then you say...I need to get to work, enjoy your day.

A little more professional and breif should stop inviting chit chat.