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Old 5th February 2018, 4:56 PM   #1
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Dating and photography

I have a question for all the women and men on here. 1st a backstory, I have been shooting glamour, bikini, and casual portraits for about 15yrs, some paid, quite a bit published, it's my passion. Had some gf's who were totally unaccepting of it (admitted insecurity and jealousy issues), shot a model who wouldn't date a guy if he was behind the camera due to her jealousy issues. Shot a model who told me her s/o didn't know about her nude photo work, she made good money from it, $125/hr. with some days being booked at a studio up to 6hrs. She felt some aspects of her work she should keep to herself to avoid issues in the relationship.

Now the question.....

Guys: Would you date a woman who did modeling as her career or source of income. Now this could be everything from high fashion to bikini, glamour, and nudes. It's mostly paid work, and she's faithful to you.

Ladies: Would you date a photographer who did photoshoots of everything from fashion to nudes. He's faithful and makes petty good income from it.

I'm curious on the forums view on these types of relationships and/or dating and what boundaries you would put on them..
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Old 5th February 2018, 5:15 PM   #2
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A professional who acts professionally is not a problem. I have dated bartenders, musicians, actors, & all sorts of other people with various jobs. Their job doesn't mean as much to me as their level of integrity.

Granted there are some professions I probably couldn't handle -- porn star, male escort but otherwise if he was a trust worthy guy I don't see a problem.

If the person you are dating has a problem with how you make a living, date somebody who doesn't have that problem.
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Old 5th February 2018, 5:34 PM   #3
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Ladies: Would you date a photographer who did photoshoots of everything from fashion to nudes. He's faithful and makes petty good income from it.
I am not the jealous type and I am pretty live and let live, that being said no I would not date a professional photographer that works in the field of fashion to nude, the same I would not date a bartender, and I would not date a musician that goes on tour. I want a simple life with a man that spends his days worrying about electrical cables and not be worrying about shadows appearing on boobs.
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Old 5th February 2018, 6:00 PM   #4
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My philosophy on this is that infidelity is about the cheater's character not mine and being a nudest, I understand that nudity doesn't necessarily have to do anything with sex. It should be about the individual on either side of the lense...if, as you say, they're faithful....I would have no problem with either. I might however from time to time want to show up just to observe and meet those involved.
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Years ago, I worked as a bouncer for a strip club and worked the bachelor parties......It was all on the up and up, I had no interest in the dancers anyway(most were drunks and coked up messes),,but back then during that short time, I didn't have a "steady" gf.... i'd think if I did, it would be an doubt..I don't think they'd like it...understandably so..

To be frank though, there is another issue...

It's like this....Imagine if you ate your favorite food every single day, or listened to your favorite song 10 times a day?....You get jaded, the thrill wears off..etc...Heck, I even turned a hobby into a business and lost interest in the hobby...It happens...

Now, I get it...You still will feel a different type of feeling for someone who you loved and cared for vs some woman in a club, but the thrill most guys get from seeing their SO may actually be spoiled or tainted...Like I said, I didn't have a steady at the time, but the thrill of a live naked woman's body right in front of me? Nope...

As for would I be OK with it? I don't have a problem with it in principle, and if it was tasteful but skimpy, no sweat, but especially now, where every woman that ever sent a nude to her bf is subject to have that photo leaked out over the net for the world to see...Eh...I don't want that...

But I really think the other issue mentioned is more of a potential concern...You don't want to become jaded....that would create a big problem...

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Ladies: Would you date a photographer who did photoshoots of everything from fashion to nudes. He's faithful and makes petty good income from it.
I was in the nightclub, disco and bar business for many years - no nudity but there were a lot of bikini and wet t-shirt nights back in those dark ages.

And it really caused a number of issues in my marriage with my (now ex) wife convinced it was impossible for any man to resist temptation under those circumstances. Never gave her a reason to doubt me but that wasn't enough to remove the cloud of suspicion. Ironically, she was the one that eventually cheated and destroyed the marriage.

It would take a person very secure in both their worth and place in the relationship. If it actually came down to it, I'd guess we're talking about a small minority of men and women...

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Thank you everyone for the replies. A friend who models told me "find someone in your industry of work, less hassles when they understand what you do". Think I might take her advice.
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It's not a boundary to me nor do I think it's wrong, but I WOULD think we might be incompatible (just like I would if he was, say, a professional stunt driver or game hunter or something). I would think that in order to choose this line of work, he would likely be extremely visually-driven and focused on appearance, especially that of women. Now, I get that one might say that "all" men are focused on that, but (1) IME that isn't true, and (2) there are varying degrees of 'focus'. Our jobs say a lot about our personality types.

It's really just about compatibility - you and I would be extremely incompatible but I'm sure there are other women out there who would be more compatible with you.
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