Hosishshaj Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 A few months back, this girl messaged me, we were friends for a while beforehand but due to some circumstances we stopped talking (not directly between us). She would initiate every day, and even drunk texted me the odd time. I didn't meet up with her because my friends didn't like her, and so if I went with her, they would cut me off too. I talked to her every day for a while with her initiating mostly and it was fun and friendly conversations. All of a sudden however I realised I like this girl as more than a friend. I therefore started initiating more often. I asked her out alone time and she flaked (legitimately or not still idk) but she did ask me to meet on that Saturday. I was legitimately busy that day and so I couldn't. We still talk and stuff but over time it has dwindled and she doesn't try to keep a conversation going like she used to. I made the rookie mistake of telling her I liked her, she thanked me and said she needed time after just being ****ed around by a boy. Now it seems I have to initiate and chase 99% of the time. She still seems responsive, but doesn't really try to keep the conversation flowing, and I'm just wondering what should I do with this girl. I really like her but I don't want to just be seen as a friend any more, If I go no contact it will be awkward and she might just forget about me altogether, but I don't want to do the chasing. I know it's long and I'm sorry and please tell me if I ****ed up, I love her and don't want to lose her but if it comes to it, it comes to it Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 You don't love her. You have a crush on her. It's a powerful emotion but it's not love. You asked her out & she said she needs time. That is code for she doesn't want to date you. That probably won't change over time because you have been friend-zoned. Link to post Share on other sites
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