kata345 Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 Can you reject someone to make them love you? If a guy liked a girl and the girl ignored him, then liked him slightly. And then HE rejected HER.. she became upset and started to realize how attached she became to him. Time passed. And then the guy tried to find a way to talk to her again. Do you think he might have rejected to consciously or unconsciously make her realize that she really was in love with him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 ......Reverse psychology?? If she only liked him slightly to begin with.. it's a gamble but it's possible. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 if you start playing games you have a fifty fifty chance of bombing out......i think and really do feel its better to be honest about emotions.....it sets up a better understanding to begin with..... as far as the girl you speak of...i dont know her.....it depends on how interested she was in the first place i guess...people do change their mind....if she believes that and was truly interested ...then its possible to work things out..i wouldnt however admit to playing games...reverse psychology only works on some people..deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 get a new love interest... in the end, when these type of games are being played, even if the 2 are good players, the person who falls inlove ends up most hurt. Find a new partner who enjoys and appreciates your attention, OP. You will be soooo surprised at how good having someone appreciating your interest and returning that interest back makes you feel. Really... There's nothing like liking someone and being liked back. Tell yourself that and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 I've experienced the following scenario: Man pursues woman.Woman rejects man, offers friendship.Man rejects friendship and goes no contact.Time passes.Woman pursues man. Link to post Share on other sites
loveflower Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 I've experienced the following scenario: Man pursues woman.Woman rejects man, offers friendship.Man rejects friendship and goes no contact.Time passes.Woman pursues man. ...and then? Link to post Share on other sites
Myragal Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 The best foundation for a relationship is feeling secure...good about the other person. A feeling of 'comfy'. Cliche but this comes from honesty. Trust. Women like men with integrity. Integrity is earned by being truthful and 'not' playing games. Don't let doubts creep into your relationship. Be the guy we can depend upon to be rock solid in his word. We want this in a man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lyons Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 When you play that sort of childish manipulative game, even if it seems to work at first, it's not a basis on which a healthy, sustainable relationship is built. In other words, it's a recipe for ultimate failure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kata345 Posted November 27, 2015 Author Share Posted November 27, 2015 I've experienced the following scenario: Man pursues woman.Woman rejects man, offers friendship.Man rejects friendship and goes no contact.Time passes.Woman pursues man. yes she did pursue the guy... but stopped. and now he wants to contact her but doesn't quite know how to.. Link to post Share on other sites
JustGettingBy Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 yes she did pursue the guy... but stopped. and now he wants to contact her but doesn't quite know how to.. Meow! Squeak! Link to post Share on other sites
Divasu Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Interesting. I'd have to agree with the NO games part, and let the chips fall where they may. Easier said then done of course. IMO, making any type of 'decision', when pressure of any negative format is present, it does not make for a stable environment. Baby steps, of course - but in doing so, we also risk the other shoe to drop (hypothetically). Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 ...and then?Nothing. I was dating someone else by the time she reached out. To be clear, I was not playing games. When she rejected me, I had no interest in her friendship. I did not reject her friendship in hopes of changing her mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Yes, if they are emotionally stunted or are in the fifth grade. G 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kata345 Posted November 27, 2015 Author Share Posted November 27, 2015 Interesting. I'd have to agree with the NO games part, and let the chips fall where they may. Easier said then done of course. IMO, making any type of 'decision', when pressure of any negative format is present, it does not make for a stable environment. Baby steps, of course - but in doing so, we also risk the other shoe to drop (hypothetically). the guy made real baby steps... he hacked her!... and sent her messages through pinterest and Facebook.. and liked videos about love on youtube!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Imported Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Stupid. 10 characters Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted November 29, 2015 Share Posted November 29, 2015 Loving someone and not wanting to lose are different. Some people don't like to lose or be rejected. That is, even if they don't really love or like you, you rejecting them makes them question their worth or makes them feel like they lost, so they seek your approval after a rejection, even when they didn't initially want you, but they do it to win so the last word is that you didn't reject them...it's not about love. And usually with these kinds of games the subsequent relationship quickly falls apart as it's not built on genuine love but simply egos, wanting validation and wanting to win. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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