goodgirlgonebad15 Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 I was having a general discussion with one of my co-workers today. She does alot of online dating and is always telling me her crazy stories. Recently she tells me about a guy that all he does is talk about sex. That's all he does and he begs her to have sex with him. Then she has talked to other guys who of course mention sex but do not talk about it anywhere near as much as some guys....which leads me to my question. In general, if a man talks about sex all the time, to the point of begging for it...does that mean he is NOT getting any at all? and vice versa, if a man doesn't feel the need to talk about sex all the time nor does he feel the need to pressure and beg a woman for sex...does that mean he is more than likely getting his needs met elsewhere so the pressure is off? I always hear those that don't get it talk about it...thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 I wouldn't know. Dammit.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Carson Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 There's a saying, From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks! Their talking about whats on their mind the most. But just because a guys not saying it doesn't mean its not there. Guys want sex! Link to post Share on other sites
ladyabstrused Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 ^What Mr Carson said. You can't truly assume so, you know, whichever the case is. Unless you ask the guy himself about it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 Recently she tells me about a guy that all he does is talk about sex. That's all he does and he begs her to have sex with him. He is desperate for sex.He has used this tactic before to get sex and it worked.He is a sex addict. He sounds a bit immature to me. How old is he? Definitely not relationship material anyway. We all like talking about sex, but 24/7 ??? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author goodgirlgonebad15 Posted May 22, 2015 Author Share Posted May 22, 2015 He is desperate for sex.He has used this tactic before to get sex and it worked.He is a sex addict.He sounds a bit immature to me. How old is he? Definitely not relationship material anyway. We all like talking about sex, but 24/7 ??? This particular guy is in his 50's . But he claims to my friend/co worker that he has women in rotation and gets it all the time I don't think he is a sex addict...I think he is desperate and doesn't get it so he "talks" like he does... It just doesn't add up...if you are getting some you don't act that immature. Just wanted to add..she talks to him for pure entertainment, he is not someone she would ever consider seriously... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 One, it's unambiguous. Two, it works. Sure, it might not work on any particular woman but men are number crunchers when it comes to sex. They know only a very few potential partners are, or would be, interested and, yup, some guys have the style of being out there about sex. If things match up, they do. If not, the guy quickly moves on to the next flower. A guy in his 50's (I'm one) also sees the grim reaper off in the distance and that can be a factor. Link to post Share on other sites
Author goodgirlgonebad15 Posted May 22, 2015 Author Share Posted May 22, 2015 There's a saying, From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks! Their talking about whats on their mind the most. But just because a guys not saying it doesn't mean its not there. Guys want sex! I totally get this and I agree. But I think to go out your way as a man to talk about sex 24/7 and beg for it while pretending to be a player who gets it all the time...is nothing but desperate and more than likely not getting any at all. I feel like men can be more aggressive about wanting sex when they are not getting it vs when they are getting steady,regular sex. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 Personally, I tended to be more 'out there' about sex and more aggressive about it when I was married and getting it regularly. Perhaps that's part of why women were more solicitous and flirtatious during that period, IDK. However, that may be outlier behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 I totally get this and I agree. But I think to go out your way as a man to talk about sex 24/7 and beg for it while pretending to be a player who gets it all the time...is nothing but desperate and more than likely not getting any at all. I feel like men can be more aggressive about wanting sex when they are not getting it vs when they are getting steady,regular sex. I think your friend is playing with fire though, she should perhaps set him straight and stop leading him on. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 My guess is differing libidos. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Carson Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 Lots of men get sex all the time and are horny all the time, and an 80 year old man can still have a 18 year old's mind when it comes to sex. So don't be fooled by age. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 22, 2015 Share Posted May 22, 2015 I think it means he has some psychological problems. I actually encountered this in my workplace. It was so gross, but yet the guy wasn't a monster. He got very vivid and this was before there were rules enforced in the workplace about sexual harassment. He was married with teen daughters, which was very worrisome. I had frank discussion with him about being worried for his daughters, telling him about the effect even finding porn in my dad's bedside had on me, etc. Well, one day, don't know why, this guy went to a retreat of some sort and he came back pretty well sorted out. He found out where it all came from, though he didn't go into detail, and it was like he just changed overnight. Probably was from abuse. This was a guy who had fired young employees under him before because they dyed their hair a color he didn't like. I mean, he talked dirty to everyone before. It can happen when someone is oversexualized as a child. Link to post Share on other sites
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