Robert Z Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 After the craziest ride of my life, a miserable marriage, a near suicide, another fiancée and a half dozen or so serious relationships, who knows how many crushes and infatuations, lots of escorts, lots of strippers, a sugar baby who stole my heart like no woman ever has before, and after living a fairy tale where I experienced a passion that I didn't believe possible, this is what I have learned. It has been said that love is a many splendored thing. But I don't agree. It makes as singular out of a plural. There are many different kinds of love. So when someone asks "what is love?", I say, which one? In fact, I would venture to say that every single case of love is unique. No two loves are ever the same. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
contact1 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 What is loveee? Baby don't hurt me! Don't hurt me, no more! Sorry, couldn't help myself there 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 My fav podcaster considers love as "awe, admiration, and respect".... I do not believe I have ever experienced that ^^ type of feeling for someone I've dated/gotten involved with. As for family? Eh, I don't know if I love them. I know I've cared and continue to care for them. I have and continue to make many sacrifices for them. Not sure if that's love or obligation. I also experience emotions for them (both sad and joyful ones). So, have I loved "anyone"? I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 What is loveee? Baby don't hurt me! Don't hurt me, no more! Sorry, couldn't help myself there Dammit! I was going to post that... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Love is that feeling that you feel when you feel those other feelings that you feel. Or... It's a feeling based around a close friendship, that is difficult to explain. A mature, rational growth amongst too people of great appreciation; shared and mutual bonds; a higher state of communication. And all that fancy stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Here ya go! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 from “The Road Less Traveled,” by M. Scott Peck— The experience of falling in love is invariably temporary. The essence of the phenomenon of falling in love is a sudden collapse of a section of an individual’s ego boundaries, permitting one to merge his or her identity with that of another person. The sudden release of oneself from oneself, the explosive pouring out of oneself into the beloved, and the dramatic surcease of loneliness accompanying this collapse of ego boundaries is experienced by most of us as ecstatic. We and our beloved are one! Loneliness is no more! The experience of merging with the loved one has its echoes from the time when we were merged with our mothers in infancy. Along with the merging we also re-experience the sense of omnipotence which we had to give up in our journey out of childhood. All things seem possible! United with our beloved we feel we can conquer all obstacles. We believe that the strength of our love will cause the forces of opposition to melt away. The unreality of these feelings when we have fallen in love is essentially the same as the unreality of the two-year-old who feels itself to be with power unlimited. Just as reality intrudes upon the two-year-old’s fantasy of omnipotence so does reality intrude upon the fantastic unity of the couple who have fallen in love. Sooner or later, in response to the problems of daily living, individual will reasserts itself. He wants to have sex, she doesn’t. She wants to go to the movies, he doesn’t. He wants to put money in the bank, she wants a dishwasher. She wants to talk about her job, he wants to talk about his. She doesn’t like his friends, he doesn’t like hers. So both of them, in the privacy of their hearts, begin to come to the sickening realization that they are not one with the beloved, that the beloved has and will continue to have his or her own desires, tastes, prejudices and timing different from their own. One by one, gradually or suddenly, the ego boundaries snap back into place; gradually or suddenly, they fall out of love. Once again they are two separate individuals. At this point they begin either to dissolve the ties of their relationship or to initiate the work of real loving. By my use of the word “real” I am implying that the perception that we are loving when we fall in love is a false perception—that our subjective sense of being loving is an illusion. Real love does not have its roots in a feeling of love. To the contrary, real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking, when we act lovingly despite the fact that we don’t particularly feel loving or particularly even feel like we like the person at the moment. “Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity. . .Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. . . . love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.....true love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it is correct to say, 'Love is as love does'.” 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 True love can be wonderful feeling when you know it! Sometimes you feel that your in love with that person. If you haven't felt this yet, then your not in love nor being loved by someone other than you know. Love means so much to others. That's the one gift we all share, when it happens. Those that tell you they're in love with you daily are the best ones to be with! Now on the other hand if they don't tell you they love you daily or once in a while when they feel like it, then your not going to be so excited to be loved then. Link to post Share on other sites
contact1 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Here ya go! LOL I've always loved that SNL skit, wait a minute, I think I just found love!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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