Does my fiancée lied being virgin

[Zak123]

Hai every one I'm going straight to the point, I'm 23 year old and I meet my gf who's my fiancée now 1 year ago. We got engaged 3 months ago and she was claiming to be virgin all this time until we got engaged, she did not wanted to have sex before marriage but after we got engaged she let me in I think it was because she knew I would marry her for sure. I have been with 10-15 girls n had sexual experiences and I don't have any issue if she is a virgin or not but I think she is lying to me n it's driving me nuts this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with, the first time when we she let me to have sex with her it was very strange for me.1 I felt she was very lose I mean I have been with girls before its not my first time 2 I had blowjobs before but the one she gifted me seemed abit to much experienced. I did not see any bleeding at all and it's hurting me why did she liyed to me I asked her about why didn't she bleed n stuff the answer was I did abit maybe u didn't notice it, please if there is any one interested to help me with this issue It would lift a heavy wight from my chest.

[Pompom]

The recipient of my first blowjob was amazed and incredulous that it was my first. So was the first guy I had sex with. Some women watch quite some porn and practice with tools and toys before actually doing those things with a partner. Porn has made my blowjob expert level from the start.

As for being loose, it's a misconception to believe that sex permanently loosens the vagina. She could be naturally loose. Some hymens are also a lot less affected by sex than others. See Wikipedia for this.

She may be lying, but she may also be telling the truth. A woman lying about her virginity usually means no harm and may be scared you might reject or judge her if you knew she's had sex with other men before. I would be gentle and forgiving whatever the truth may be. This is certainly not an ill-willed lie if it is one at all.

[Radu]

I have to disagree with you here, a woman that lies about her virginity and misdirects so much can be very bad news.

It all depends on the society the couple lives in.

I can understand this if they live in the middle-east, or India or even China ... but in the West the stigma of not being one is not outweighed by the fact that you are lying to your future husband.

 

OP, vagina's vary in size more so then penises.

Some are very tight, some are very loose.

As far as blowjobs, Pompom is right, porn and the internet made experts out of all of us.

 

Some hymens are so elastic and resilient OP that an operation is required to allow intercourse.

 

OP, why don't you ask her about the blowjob.

But be smart and compliment her first, tell her it was amazing and you appreciate it ... and ask where did she saw how to give one.

[NateC]

Also...the hymen is very delicate and will sometimes break with exercise or sports...it's a bad indicator of virginity honestly.

[sweetkiwi]

Only she knows If she's lying but Im glad my first didn't doubt me the way you're doubting her.

 

I had no bleeding my first time either. I have never been loose but that doesn't indicate anything about a woman's experience. My blowjobs have always been good. I didn't even watch porn. I guess i was inherently talented which surprised my first boyfriend as well.

 

You need to talk to the woman you plan on marrying. The things you stated DO NOT indicate she's lying but obviously you feel she is, or could be. You at least need to discuss your feelings and be receptive to her answers.