What do the guys think if a girl takes initiative?

[soulinpain]

What do the guys think if a girl takes initiative?

This couple..a guy n a girl(both mature adults, both single, in 40s, well established in their jobs, same work place) like each other a lot, guy took a number of initiatives to express that to her(indirectly, thru actions, indirect comments)), girl recently started responding. So, he knows that she likes him back, too. Both have a good reputation at work.

 

Now, the girl, in an effort to convey something good to him, could not do that(being so shy), and it turns out that the guy misunderstood her, got offended and now has started ignoring her.She did try to explain again, but again a communication gap, as no direct words were used. Now,she is feeling miserable, not willing to lose him. The guy will be leaving in a week for an out of state assignment, for 2.5 months. She wants the ice to be broken before he leaves...else it will be killing for her.

 

PLEASE SUGGEST:If the girl approaches him, to have a direct conversation(which believe me, is extremely hard for her: she will have to swallow her pride and hesitation), what will the guy think about this?

 

The doubts that she has in her mind are:

1. What if he totally backs out and says I was never interested in you...you misunderstood!

2. What if he insults her and says what a wierdo u are! Take a grip of ur thoughts first!

3. What if he starts discussing this with other people at work(gossip) and that tarnishes her reputation at work?

 

I will really appreciate your response...please help. Thanks!

[Shaun-Dro]

What do the guys think if a girl takes initiative?

This couple..a guy n a girl(both mature adults, both single, in 40s, well established in their jobs, same work place) like each other a lot, guy took a number of initiatives to express that to her(indirectly, thru actions, indirect comments)), girl recently started responding. So, he knows that she likes him back, too. Both have a good reputation at work.

 

Now, the girl, in an effort to convey something good to him, could not do that(being so shy), and it turns out that the guy misunderstood her, got offended and now has started ignoring her.She did try to explain again, but again a communication gap, as no direct words were used. Now,she is feeling miserable, not willing to lose him. The guy will be leaving in a week for an out of state assignment, for 2.5 months. She wants the ice to be broken before he leaves...else it will be killing for her.

 

PLEASE SUGGEST:If the girl approaches him, to have a direct conversation(which believe me, is extremely hard for her: she will have to swallow her pride and hesitation), what will the guy think about this?

 

The doubts that she has in her mind are:

1. What if he totally backs out and says I was never interested in you...you misunderstood!

2. What if he insults her and says what a wierdo u are! Take a grip of ur thoughts first!

3. What if he starts discussing this with other people at work(gossip) and that tarnishes her reputation at work?

 

I will really appreciate your response...please help. Thanks!

 

I only know that older women (40s & up) take the initial to approach guys because they're over the hill and have nothing else to lose. Ewww...older women .

[Darren Taylor]

I'm well under 40, but I always think positively of those that take initiative with me(assuming I'm attracted to them). It shows high interest and those are the only types of women I respond to.

[soulinpain]

I only know that older women (40s & up) take the initial to approach guys because they're over the hill and have nothing else to lose. Ewww...older women .

Dont u think that pple over 40 have emotions and/or self respect...would YOU never be 40???

[soulinpain]

I'm well under 40, but I always think positively of those that take initiative with me(assuming I'm attracted to them). It shows high interest and those are the only types of women I respond to.

Thanks so much,Darren

[Shaun-Dro]

Dont u think that pple over 40 have emotions and/or self respect...would YOU never be 40???

 

I dont have to care about how old women feel because they've gone over the hill at 40. They never cared about anyone when they were 20 and hot and attractive and acted like they were better.

 

Just because now they're old and beat at 40 I'm supposed to cut them slack and be forgiving? I dont think so .

 

Besides, it's way different for a man than it is for a woman. By the time I hit the number 40 I should be living it up real nice and can bang any sexy, beautiful woman in sight, as only my status will matter to her, however it will be nothing more than a roll in the sack for me with her anyway since I'm finally on to who she is, and she's worthless otherwise, so....