Found out something about my girlfriend

[dusters]

Hi, I'm 21 and I've been in a relationship with a little over one year now, and things were going great until last night. I was on her computer and went through her browsing history. I know I probably shouldn't have done this as it can't lead to anything good, but I did it anyways.

 

What I found was disturbing to me. She was visiting beastiality websites and looking at videos of animals having sex. It wasn't just a few, the history went on for over an hour. Early on in our relationship I saw that she had watched a few of these videos on youtube by pure chance when I was just going through all the music videos she liked for a CD I was making her, but I thought maybe she was just curious.

 

After this second even I confronted her, and she told me that when she hasn't gotten off in a while or we don't have enough sex she gets off to these videos of animals having sex. We have a pretty easy-going relationship and watch normal porn together, but I thought this was just taking it too far.

 

She says she is sorry and that she won't do it anymore, but I am still completely creeped out by it. I love this woman very much and I thought I would marry her someday, but now I'm not sure.

 

Thoughts?

[silvermane187]

haha wow...If your really love you you'll have to accept she gets off by watching animals go at it.

[Stilicho]

lol..... all i can say really

[WingsofFire]

I say you seek some type of help for her....this can be unhealthy to yalls relationship. especially if it comes to, err reality persay.

[dreamingoftigers]

So was she watching people and animals do it or just animals doing it?

[djhall]

At the end of the day, there is really only one question here that matters. You can't unlearn what you know, and the fact that she finds this erotic isn't something she is likely to be able to just turn off, so here is the question: Can you, knowing this is someting she finds arousing, accept her and love her and resepect her and be comfortable with her and her sexuality anyway?

 

It is quite possible that this is just to much for you personally to accept and be comfortable with. If that is the case, fine, it isn't anything to be ashamed of, that is just your sexuality and you should make the break as quickly and cleanly as possible and move on to someone who is more compatible with you.

 

It is also possilble that this is something you find can accept and be comfortable with and love and respect and admire and desire her anyway. Before making that decision you ought to think carefully about what your reaction would be if this interest grew and extended to, say, her actually having sex with a dog. I'm not saying it will, but plenty of women have done it and the possibility might be there. If so, good for the two of you, best of wishes, hope it works out.

 

In my opinion, the worst thing you could do is continue the relationship, continue to have her emotionally invested in you and vulnerable to you, and continually tear down her self-esteem and self-worth by letting her see that you don't think this is okay about her, that you don't really respect and admire her, that you aren't really okay with who she is. If that is going to be the case, or likely to be the case, do both of you a favor and move on now.

[tyciol]

I'm in agreement with ALB about this. But dusters, if this isn't something you can come to terms with, then accept your lack of tolerance and love for this girl and move on to some reserved chick and stop leading on this one who you've lost interest in for her divergent curiosity. By your recollection of her statement, it doesn't seem like you're fulfilling her sexual needs, and now you don't want to be with her because she thinks other species' intercourse is hot. If it wanes so easily, that's not love enough for a healthy marriage I think, so this will be a good wake up call to your true motivations.