missjuli Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I left my husband 3 months ago and moved in with my new boyfriend. Since then I lost my cousin to suicide, got injured at work, and am dealing with a lot of opposition from family and friends. Amidst all this, I had a miscarriage over the weekend. I wasn't sure that I was pregnant but my period was super late. Last week I started spotting so I assumed it was my period showing up and I was relieved. Then after a few days I noticed my flow was getting heavier. I started having really bad pelvic and back cramps. The next morning I had intense bleeding and cramping and passed a large fleshy clot in the bathroom at a graduation party. I was in such shock and I knew someone was waiting to use the bathroom so I only had a few seconds to hold it and look at it...then flush it down the toilet. After googling my symptoms, looking at early embryos and taking a home test, it's pretty clear that I miscarried. I don't want to go to the doctor I'm still on my former husband's health plan. While he told me I can use the insurance and HSA, he need receipts if I use the card and he'll get an EOB seeing what provider I went to. I can't pay for the visit out of my own pocket either because I'm out of work! What's odd is that I know I can't take care of a child right now. The logical part of me feels relieved that the pregnancy ended. But I can't help but feel so sad. I cried so hard yesterday. I'm beside myself that I was pregnant in the first place. I'm floored that I held my dead child in my hand for a brief moment before I knew what it was. The timing wasn't right. I won't be ready to be a mom for a while, I'm sure. But still, I'm grieving. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I'm sorry for your loss. I'd get checked if I were you. You may need a d and c. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 So sorry that you are going through all this right now. Do you have someone you can talk to? Last year was a rough year for us as well. My MIL died late spring of last year and I lost my job and beloved cat 3 days apart right before Christmas. It was a terrible time. Positive thoughts for you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I'm so sorry . Go get checked out. Maybe consider looking for free grief counseling. It's a lot to take on alone and you can get help. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Im so sorry, MissJuli Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 So sorry for your loss. I do think you need to see a doctor and will probably need a d and c. I don't think they have to say on a receipt what the medical procedure is for do they? I think it is written in code for the insurance company. Your future health is more important than what your ex husband thinks anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TAV Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Sorry for your loss and traumatic experience. Can you share with your new boyfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
Author missjuli Posted July 22, 2014 Author Share Posted July 22, 2014 Thanks everyone. I'm deciding whether I want to be seen by a doctor. I have a lot of support in my life and I'm grateful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Thanks everyone. I'm deciding whether I want to be seen by a doctor. I have a lot of support in my life and I'm grateful. I'm glad you have a support system but you really should go see a doctor. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I am sorry for your loss, and hope you can move past this. Please see a doctor, and sort out birth control. You just left your husband, and are living with a guy that you've only been with for a few weeks - the last thing you need is to fall pregnant, and have to deal with either having a baby or terminating the pregnancy etc. You are not ready to have a child as you said, so be a responsible adult and take the necessary precautions please. Take care of yourself, and sorry to hear about your struggles. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
judychong Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I am so sorry to hear that :-( I'm sending you a bunch of positive vibes. I hope, no, I know you will get through it! <3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 (edited) This is a serious issue...... Don't let fear stop you from checking your health I am not an expert, but you should check yourself, for your own safety. You know sometimes, you have a headache, you go online and they say it's a cancer.. I am against your decision to not check what's happening at the doctor. This is a serious matter. Who knows you might still be pregnant, I don't want to give you false hopes, but you should check I am sorry for what happened to you, take care... Edited July 23, 2014 by Noproblem 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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