planb1973 Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 A month ago my relationship with a woman I had dated for a few months ended. The main reason was that we were both seeing other people, though in a different sense. I had met at the same time a woman who traveled for work a lot so it was taking a long time to get to know her. She on the other hand had a couple one night stands during our brief time together. All of this came up when she asked if I was seeing anyone else. Apparently she thought we were exclusive. And finding out I was dating someone else she wanted a commitment. I was not ready yet. That and I wanted to see some real acknowledgment from her for her actions. So we went our separate ways. This was one month ago. I could tell she was upset and was sending me mixed signals such as unfriending me on FB yet sending me links to stuff i'm interested in through email. I know better than to continue contact under these circumstances and ignored her. There has been no contact from me in the last month and her last attempt was 2 weeks ago texting me that I used her and lied to her and she did not want to be friends. So the other woman I had been dating and I ended things amicably a couple weeks ago due to simple compatibility reasons, we wished each other good luck and went our separate ways. I really liked the one I let go and have been wanting to contact her. Im not sure if enough time has passed for her to want to hear from me. I have been thinking of calling or writing a letter to see if we can give it a real chance. Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 I'm confused, who thought you two were exclusive? The one who traveled or the one who didn't? Link to post Share on other sites
badpenny Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 I'm sorry, but if I were the lady you're thinking or re-contacting, I'd think I was a fall-back option, a second-best, so frankly, I'd ignore you and/or feel very insulted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author planb1973 Posted March 1, 2015 Author Share Posted March 1, 2015 The one who doesn't travel is the one who thought we were exclusive, she is the one who had a couple one night stands. The one who travels is a done deal, we were not compatible. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted March 1, 2015 Share Posted March 1, 2015 As your name implies, you made her plan "B". If she wasn't your first pick I would guess that even if you guys started dating again, you would eventually leave her for someone else. If she has any self-respect, she wouldn't answer you even if you reach out to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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