slipped halo Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Hi my ex left me at start of semester at uni , he was under a lot of pressure with his course and he wanted to go out and party and I was always on his case to see him . Said he wanted some time and space . Anyway we started missing each other and have been in contact a lot over text and phone calls and intend to meet up after a holiday with his parents in a day or so . AnywY a well meaning friend has told me that my ex does drugs when he gooes out socialising ??? I've told him by text I know and he's devastated ive found out and wants to talk still . I'm devastated too , feel so betrayed and no wonder he wanted time and space !! Problem is I still love him so don't know where to go from here...? He knows I'm very anti drugs too so it's not a great situation . Any advice ?? As far as I know it's party drugs ... He's not a hardcore addict or anything but I'm still disgusted by it all Link to post Share on other sites
Light Breeze Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 In my opinion there are three things you need to ask him and yourself. First, ask him if he intends to rekindle the relationship. Second, ask him if he is willing to drop the habit. Third, If yes, and he apologizes can you forgive him for what he did and move pass through it? It all boils down to whether you can find it in your heart to truly forgive him if he is genuinely remorseful and if you love him enough to gamble for this relationship again. Stay strong sister. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Drugs are a deal breaker for me. I would not take somebody back who was still taking them. I'd need to see clean & sober for a while before I was willing to try. You can't trust druggies. They lie. Be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
aggie382 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 What's the drug? Pot wouldn't upset me but coke would. Link to post Share on other sites
NGC1300 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Drugs are a deal breaker for me. I would not take somebody back who was still taking them. I'd need to see clean & sober for a while before I was willing to try. You can't trust druggies. They lie. Be careful. Oh come on. If I smoke some weed you're essentially lumping me in with the homeless man who sits in back alleys with the heroin needle in his arm. The problem with anyone who's "anti drug" is they really aren't. They're just against the drugs they don't personally like or take. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Oh come on. If I smoke some weed you're essentially lumping me in with the homeless man who sits in back alleys with the heroin needle in his arm. The problem with anyone who's "anti drug" is they really aren't. They're just against the drugs they don't personally like or take. Nope I am anti drug all across the board. I do understand that you can take certain recreational drugs & not screw up your life to be non functioning but especially if the drug is illegal I want no part of it or any user. If it were legal I still wouldn't be happy nor would I want your second hand smoke or that smell in my living environment but I would not be so freaked out that somebody else's choice to break the law was potentially going to cause me to be facing charges for constructive possession. You can certainly do what you want but I can do what I want too which is not spent time with people who do drugs whether it's "a little weed" or mainlining heroin. Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 I'm devastated too , feel so betrayed and no wonder he wanted time and space !! Don't kid yourself, he didn't break up with you to start "doing drugs" when he goes out. Link to post Share on other sites
Cheesecake9 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 I think ultimately you need to ask yourself an important question; if he is willing to stop the drug-taking, can you forget about it and leave it behind? If the answer is no, you have your answer really. If it's yes, you need to speak to him and see if he's willing to stop. Let him know how important this is to you and that really, it's a deal-breaker. If it's a social thing only, it should be easy to kick the habit and he should be willing to do it for you if he's serious about getting back together. If he's not willing to give it up for you, take it as a sign that it's time to move on, that this isn't meant to be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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