Update: She started playing me until I stood up to her

[Humphrey 101]

Previously:

 

For, the past five days my ex and I began to make plans to

meet for dinner and to talk things through. Then go watch, a live performance it wasn’t until, the Sunday when she started to screw around and make excuses in order to avoid seeing me. The first excuse that she made was she had a meeting in regards; to an up-coming at 18:00 which was a lie. I went along with it and asked if she wanted to meet on Tuesday? She said Tuesday was good. Monday night

I text to confirm that we were still meeting and (she replied saying see you tomorrow with a smiley face).

 

On Tuesday morning while I was at work she text me saying

she had a job interview at 17:30 pm and it was 1hour and 30 minutes outside of downtown sorry we could not meet today. So that’s when I had enough, I text back telling her that if she changed the plan one more time I’m going home and I’m never coming back.

 

She got defensive and said I apologize for finding a job but

this is a priority for me right now. I replied you say that all the time. She

replied saying because I’m looking all the time, I replied asking her but why 17:30? Usually interviews are done during the day time. She replied ask them! I replied ask who? She says the company I replied saying I apologize for getting defensive but I don’t understand the whole ordeal. But I did and she was screwing with me etc. I replied again asking what the name of the company is and what was her position? She replied saying Alex, this is too much… Well her lies are and I got to the point that I had enough and it was time to tell her this is unacceptable and it will not be tolerated. It was either she respected me and stick to the plan or if she wanted to jerk around then I was out.

 

After she went silent, yesterday she responded and said I do not think it is a good idea for us to see each other. And she did not like my reaction.

 

How did, she want me to react she did it twice and twice is

good enough. At least standing up to her really shed some light on to her letting her know that right now she’s angry and that means she cares. It could of being worse if she told me never to contact her again I would know right then and there I’m done.

 

I replied saying I rather stay on the positive side and avoid a conflict’ and said let’s try and meet next week or so. But please inform me about these up-coming events so that way I can try and reschedule.

This was strike two on my end so now I want her to be very cautious and knowing that being jerked around is not cool. And it will lead to serious problems along with no credibility. Let this be a lesson to her.

 

Update:

 

After, I stood up to her when she started playing me I finally shed some light on her. Nobody deserves to, be played and jerked around especially when you’re trying to make up and work things out. Yesterday I called her and she answered the phone and we talked for more than 17 minutes. (She says she was, afraid and she didn’t like my reaction. Unfortunately’ when someone plays games with you it crosses the line). I even ask myself if someone plays how you will feel. If someone agrees; to go out with you then breaks it not once but twice. How would you react? Well people don’t take games lightly so I took control and said no more.

 

My decisions I have made to focus further on my future instead of bringing myself closer. I must make better choices in which would lead me to reach my goal? It will still take time and lots of hard work and dedication.

 

Why? Because most of the time it will appear like it is not going to work out

for us. Until it does, once it does, then her confidence will be built and she

will feel like maybe other things she wanted are possible.

 

I have to successfully accomplish one of my goals at a time towards fulfilling

the vision you have for me and her life and all we both felt we are capable of

becoming someone with goals and accomplishments. We agreed to go out next Wednesday and she wanted to go to see a live performance after I googled some shows and text it to her. But we're going to sit down and talk and patch things up first then go see the play after.

 

Whoever is afraid is insecure someone who acts confident and sure of his or herself will get somewhere.