Nice topic for a thread.
Believe me you don't want it to generate 700 posts. Because as soon as my thread did the admins just barged in an locked it ! How cool !
So I thought about adding my own reply to your thread. Maybe I'll bring along some luck and this thread will reach 700 posts too.
Another thing to keep in mind is, in my experience the moment you really stop hoping, and really stop believing and moving on and living life for you [cheezy but true]... That's when that person comes back, but then you can make a decision knowing that you could be happy with or without her because your comfortable with yourself and don't necessarily need her.
I agree that in many cases they come back when we decide that we do not want them anymore because we (men) can wait for few weeks maybe a couple of months but the nature most males is "out of sight is out of mind" while most women have the "familiarity breeds contempt" so the more we are away from them the more they want us
, I agree with both of them. You see, at first my ex caved in and called me after 3 weeks of silence. Now it has been 1 month after her call. I haven't called her and I definitely won't !
I have been seeing someone else for the last 2 weeks and I can tell you this: The person I'm seeing now has opened my eyes to so many things that I wouldn't take my ex back even if she begged me night and day.
I would have never believed I'd say this but yes as blah_toolz and estekado
called it "the worst summer ever" is over for me. I have completely moved on with my life and I'm happy I did. I don't ever want to think of a possible relationship with my ex because she has used me and abused me. I don't trust her at all and I hardly feel anything for her anymore. I don't even think about her that much. I'm a new man and I'm as happy as can be.
I wish everyone on this forum will someday reach that state of mind. Keep the hope (not about your ex coming back but about your happiness coming back even if it's with someone else !)
, good luck in finding that happiness. Just believe it's waiting for you someday, somewhere...