amaysngrace Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 For the past six months I've been taking care of my mom from Sunday until Tuesday night when my sister would come down to relieve me and she would stay until Friday when my other sister would come through Sunday when I got there. Today I don't have to pack my bag. I don't have to grocery shop for my house I leave or for hers where I headed. I don't have the responsibility that had me rushing around and leaving little free time to get things done at home because some weeks I'd be wiped out for a day or two once I got back to my house. I don't have to do any of those things anymore but I gladly would if I could get to see her one more time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I know it's especially hard when you have tons of time to think. It makes it all the harder. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I'm sorry for your loss and that you are hurting. I'm also sorry I don't have any words to make you feel better. I'd just like to offer you a hug. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 My condolences. I'm so sorry that you find yourself in this position. It's good that you were able to spend some time with her. Did you have a chance to say your final goodbyes? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author amaysngrace Posted January 25, 2016 Author Share Posted January 25, 2016 My condolences. I'm so sorry that you find yourself in this position. It's good that you were able to spend some time with her. Did you have a chance to say your final goodbyes? Thank you. Yes. She actually went on my watch early Tuesday morning during the night so her last full day here was mine. I made it nice for her I think. I turned her tv to a quiet music channel instead of loud ABC tv that had been filling her days, lit her bedroom windows with the Christmas candles that were in there still and called in my Monsignor to anoint her late Monday night. I'd like to think she wanted me there on purpose over the others. But who knows? I was her baby and in the end, she was mine. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Oh, I am so sorry, amaysngrace. I'm so glad that you had her last day with her and that you were so gentle with her. I'm sure she appreciated it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Thank you. Yes. She actually went on my watch early Tuesday morning during the night so her last full day here was mine. I made it nice for her I think. I turned her tv to a quiet music channel instead of loud ABC tv that had been filling her days, lit her bedroom windows with the Christmas candles that were in there still and called in my Monsignor to anoint her late Monday night. I'd like to think she wanted me there on purpose over the others. But who knows? I was her baby and in the end, she was mine. This is a beautiful post, amaysngrace. It seems your mother reared three daughters well. What a wonderful life she had with you! I can imagine you'll share the love and faithfulness she instilled in your heart with many people in the years to come. May God draw you especially close to Himself at this time and forever after. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 ***Hugz*** My condolences 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fireflywy Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 (edited) I'm so sorry to hear this. You have my condolences and thoughts. *Hug* Edited January 25, 2016 by fireflywy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 So sorry. Take care X. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I'm so sorry, Amay. I'm sure a lot of other people besides me are thinking of you today. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Coincidental 2 year anniversary of sth similar for me. Condolences. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author amaysngrace Posted January 25, 2016 Author Share Posted January 25, 2016 Thank you everyone. xo Yesterday was hard because Sunday was my day to head over there and take care of her but I know she's in a better place and that's what helps me. First one's the tough one. I think next Sunday will be better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 A big big hug to you amay xxxxxx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 Sorry for your loss! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 I remember how weird it was when I didn't have to look after my grandmother anymore. It sucked on many levels. She was lucky to have you. I'm sorry amay, condolences from both Timshel and I. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MuddyFootprints Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 My condolences and sympathy. I've been thinking about you recently. I'm glad you are posting again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Aniela Posted January 26, 2016 Share Posted January 26, 2016 I'm so sorry. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author amaysngrace Posted January 30, 2016 Author Share Posted January 30, 2016 I'm so depressed that I can't stand it. I drive and think I should call my mom because I haven't talked to her in a while. Somebody told me that I can speak to her like I was speaking to them. Some kind woman told me that while I was shopping the day before her funeral and broke down buying shoes. I have so much to do and just slump around day after day. I'm like a big baby. I had my parents for a very long time and should be grateful that I did but instead I'm just a lump. I miss her so much. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 You cry it out...and talk to her like she's there! Or write her letters. I'm sorry for your loss, it really sucks and hurts to lose a parent. Grieving takes a while so let yourself go through the stages of it and don't rush to get over it and please, NO more "shoulds". Do what you can do and the rest can wait or ask for help. Don't put more pressure on yourself and have stress added into your grieving. Hugs Amay. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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