Rainbowgoo Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 When I was 16/17, I had my first relationship with my boyfriend at the time who was 17/18. We met in college. The relationship lasted just over a year and we were both madly in love with each other. We were each other's first love as well as first everything. The relationship started to go downhill when he became too invested in his band and started going to church, which resulted in him not seeing me as much and I wasn't his priority anymore. This lead to me acting very jealous of the people he spent the most time with and he ended it with the reasoning that I had turned into a psycho. I was truly heartbroken, I couldn't eat or sleep and I still attended college and parties where I would see him and just burst into tears. One day, he phoned me, telling me how much he missed me and that he wanted to start meeting up with me to see how things would go. This lead to friends with benefits, it just made me worse off. He then phoned me to tell me he used me and that he didn't miss me etc. my reaction to this was very bad, I was devastated. I said some very horrible things to him, that bad that he's lost 3 stone in 2 months. We've left college now, but I still see posts of him all the time and I miss him so much. I don't think I'll ever be able to get over him. I would really appreciate some reassurance that I'll get over him eventually, because it's 8 months later and I still feel the same! Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 You will be ok. You're young and there are lots of fish in the sea. Try to concentrate on your career and in yourself. Best of luck Link to post Share on other sites
fireflywy Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 You can and what's even MORE certain; you will. Give yourself some time and while many people here don't recommend contact (i would give it a few MONTHS) if you feel bad in how treated him (he wasn't an angel.either) and you want to settle accounts and apologize with peace (no going back to him) then do so with forgiveness for him as well as for you. If he responds with an apology, fine. If not, you will have felt you did the right thing and can let go of any guilt you're feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Don't worry, it will take you as long as you need. I dated my ex for a year an a half and took me a year and a half to get over her. Link to post Share on other sites
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