LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Coping

Psychic prediction gone wrong...


Coping Learning to deal with one's emotions and loss.

Like Tree8Likes
 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 24th October 2012, 10:04 AM   #1
Established Member
 
PYTpisces's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: DC
Posts: 139
Psychic prediction gone wrong...

Some of you may have read my story, but you don't really need to background info for this. A psychic told me that my ex was going to be the one for me, and that if I end the relationship I won't be with anyone for a long time, possibly ever.

I know that psychics can get it wrong but 2 things are bothering me.

1. My ex ended things, not me.
2. What if the psychic is right about me not finding someone in the future? I'm worried sick that I will grow old and alone all because of this failed relationship

This is probably silly but any words of encouragement or insight will be soo appreciated..
__________________
live.laugh.love.
"Hurt people hurt people"
PYTpisces is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:08 AM   #2
 
amaysngrace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Jersey Shore
Posts: 16,409
That's the dumbest thing I've heard in a while.

You paid for that?
Emilia likes this.
__________________
"you're getting so skinny you're gonna
fall through your ass hole and hang yourself"
- my Grandpa
amaysngrace is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:16 AM   #3
Established Member
 
PYTpisces's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: DC
Posts: 139
Sadly I did.. with much regret. Even though it's dumb it still f***ed with my head! Trust me I've learned my lesson and will never see another psychic... hell, i don't even believe in psychics! It was a depserate act. Now i'm paying for it
PYTpisces is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:24 AM   #4
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 3,683
This is the ex that is emotionally and mentally unstable. The one that was some what suicidal. The one that treated you with disrespect by simply disappearing on you. The one that couldn't commit to a relationship. The one that didn't have it in him to give you what you wanted.

So the psychic is telling you that if you end the relationship, you will always be alone.

Fact. You never had a relationship in the first place. It's not even a failed relationship. It's one that never existed. You're manufacturing a fantasy in your head that it was one.

Rather than seek a psychic, you should be seeking a counselor to help with your abandonment issues.

A psychic won't fix your issues, in fact they will keep feeding you bad news so that you keep going back to them because you're hoping to hear something good. If she told you that you will live happily ever after, you wouldn't need to see her again because you will be content with that information. Now that she fed you negatives, I bet my last dollar you will be going back there like an addict looking for a fix, hoping to hear something different.

Stop it. Seek help to curb your issues rather than someone that is going to magnify and propagate your insecurities.
geegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:24 AM   #5
 
amaysngrace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Jersey Shore
Posts: 16,409
It seems like you place a lot of power into the supernatural and maybe use the zodiac to define yourself too?

What I've learned is that when you give supernatural forces the power it takes away your own personal power. If you live your life being dictated then you aren't living your life at all...you're living the life someone else prescribed for you and just going through the motions.

That's just silly.
Emilia likes this.
amaysngrace is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:39 AM   #6
Established Member
 
PYTpisces's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: DC
Posts: 139
yes seriously....

you all are probably thinking i'm stupid or crazy... i'm not. appreciate the words albeit kind of harsh.
PYTpisces is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:43 AM   #7
Established Member
 
PYTpisces's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: DC
Posts: 139
you're right though it was never a real relationship but we did talk everyday for 8 months so it felt like one. He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me... we werent even sleeping together so aside from the lack of commitmentit sure felt real... so getting over a fantasy like that is still rly painful and hard
PYTpisces is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:43 AM   #8
 
amaysngrace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Jersey Shore
Posts: 16,409
Quote:
Originally Posted by PYTpisces View Post
yes seriously....

you all are probably thinking i'm stupid or crazy... i'm not. appreciate the words albeit kind of harsh.
I'm not trying to be harsh...just honest. You really should try to stop giving control to unknown forces so that you can be in control of your own life.

By going to that for advice just alleviates you of taking personal responsibility.

I'd say it'd be different if it was helping you in some way but it doesn't sound like.
amaysngrace is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:47 AM   #9
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 3,683
Quote:
Originally Posted by PYTpisces View Post
yes seriously....

you all are probably thinking i'm stupid or crazy... i'm not. appreciate the words albeit kind of harsh.
You're not stupid or crazy. You're desperate.

I had a gf that I knew for a few months. She spent $27,000 on a psychic. All for an ex-husband.

$27,000 = Buy some expensive stones and bury them by a river. Buy 2 roses once every week and lay it under her pillow. Buy a gold chalice for the psychic. Rest of the money was for her services. Didn't get her ex back.

You're emotionally driven and when that happens, you never make wise decisions. You make decisions out of desperation.

Again, you said in your first thread that you have abandonment issues. Use your energy and resources to help understand and manage those fears.
geegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:48 AM   #10
Established Member
 
PYTpisces's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: DC
Posts: 139
now i just wonder if things would have been different between him and me had i never gone to the psychic, had the psychic never planted these thoughts in my head. i'm just filled with a lot of regret and longing to have a do-over
PYTpisces is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:52 AM   #11
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 3,683
Quote:
Originally Posted by PYTpisces View Post
now i just wonder if things would have been different between him and me had i never gone to the psychic, had the psychic never planted these thoughts in my head. i'm just filled with a lot of regret and longing to have a do-over
Pisces, the man is emotionally and mentally unstable. He didn't want a relationship with you. He even told you he doesn't have it in him to be committed.

What can you possibly "do-over" when someone tells you that they can't give you what you want? He disappeared on you without a trace. What does his actions tell you?

Things could have been different if HE wanted to be with you. Things could have been different if HE wanted to "do-over" with you. It has nothing to do with the psychic.
geegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:53 AM   #12
 
amaysngrace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Jersey Shore
Posts: 16,409
Quote:
Originally Posted by PYTpisces View Post
now i just wonder if things would have been different between him and me had i never gone to the psychic, had the psychic never planted these thoughts in my head. i'm just filled with a lot of regret and longing to have a do-over
Probably it would have been different. She told you that and it changed your view from taking it day by day to thinking of forever.

You probably dumped a heavy load into the relationship unnecessarily.
amaysngrace is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 10:58 AM   #13
Established Member
 
PYTpisces's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: DC
Posts: 139
if tha'ts true then maybe i will be alone for a long time or forever. Aside from him not wanting to commit etc, he and i were faily compatible and he's the one i wanted. i can't see any up hill from here. just regret and sadness. now i'm crying at work.. i feel stupid, unwanted, weak... the list goes on
PYTpisces is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 11:12 AM   #14
Established Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 3,683
Quote:
Originally Posted by PYTpisces View Post
if tha'ts true then maybe i will be alone for a long time or forever. Aside from him not wanting to commit etc, he and i were faily compatible and he's the one i wanted. i can't see any up hill from here. just regret and sadness. now i'm crying at work.. i feel stupid, unwanted, weak... the list goes on
It's normal to feel like you'll be alone for a long time after a break-up. So what you're feeling is something we always hear on LS. I've been there too. But it isn't reality. You feel this way because you're despondent over the loss of him. Feel what you feel. It's normal to beat yourself up some when you face an ending. It's normal to regret. It's part and parcel of the healing process.

Remember when you were emotionally happy before this guy came into your life. Well, after much time has passed and you've healed and grown from this, you will once again feel that way. And when you do, the prospect of loving again will be exciting. The prospect of meeting new people will be welcomed. This is just a tiny sliver in the enormity of your life. A little tiny slice.

Eight months cannot possibly dictate the outcome of the decades you have ahead of you. Imagine a year from now. You won't be feeling this way. You'll be in a different emotional and mental bubble. It won't always be this way.

Cry. It's good to purge those feelings.
geegirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 24th October 2012, 11:14 AM   #15
 
amaysngrace's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Jersey Shore
Posts: 16,409
I agree with gee girl. Every relationship is a stepping stone to get to someplace higher.
amaysngrace is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Real life game: Behaviour prediction redkangaroo Dating 18 5th July 2012 4:49 AM
Psychic ex? leoc1973 Breaks and Breaking Up 7 7th January 2012 9:27 PM
Anyone a psychic? Lucky Dog Spirituality & Religious Beliefs 70 13th July 2005 10:27 PM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 9:38 PM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2013 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.