Is she in a rebound relationship???

[MrGreenJeans95]

so my girlfriend who I dated for a year and 2 months broke up with me for the second time, on the 1st of October to be exact. I met her on July 2016 and started dating toward the end of August that same year, The first break up was in July 2017 because she says we would fight too much and she wasn’t sure how she was feeling towards me, and started getting feelings for her best friend/sorta ex from high school, I tried fighting to keep the relationship going but she wouldn’t accept it and so all I could do is let her go... Anyways, her and her best guy friend, they had a thing in high school(about a year or two ago) and he ****ed her over somehow and she was really hurt, so he then deeply apologized to her, they then decided to stay close friends since then..

 

Anyways, she broke up with me the first time in July, we were broken up for about two weeks. She broke up with me then right after she started hanging out with that guy from high school again. But during those two weeks of being broken up, they both had a thing again and she would always contact me, asking how I’m doing, what I’ve been up to and telling me how much she needed me in her life and missed me but still wouldn’t get back with me. And sometimes she would call me while I’m out with girlfriends and I’d tell her I’m with them and she’d start crying and hang up. It was like she hates that I’m with them but still won’t do anything about as if I dumped her or something so I was confused on why she gets sad, she kind of asked for this.. But until two weeks later from the break up, I went to her house to drop off her stuff and as I was giving her her stuff she started crying and saying things like she doesn’t know why she did what she did and that it was a big mistake and how she wanted me back and how much she couldn’t go without me. And shortly after that she started getting a panic attack because she realize that she was losing me. After I calmed her down that day, we went to the park and we talked and she ended up calling the guy and telling him that they can’t be a thing anymore and that she still loves me.. So that day she cut him out and then we dated for another two months (till October 1st) then she started telling me things like she’s unhappy, thefighting was back and nothing really changed from the first time around, like when we got back together, as soon as we got comfortable again, we went back to all the problems we had the first relationship so she broke up with me again saying she wants to better herself and that she’s not ready for a relationship and that she’s stressed but then... I Find out 2-3 days later she’s officially dating that guy.... I don’t get it, he’s kind of a loser, he smokes weed every day, which I’m sure she’s doing now and he has no job, no car, I don’t get it... she’s already posting things about him saying that she loves him and stuff and she hasn’t reached out to me or told me she misses me, doesn’t care I’m out with girls or anything like she did the last break up it’s like she literally doesn’t care about me anymore... we haven’t talked for about a month and I plan on not reaching out to her at all... is her mind set on dating this guy or is he just a rebound? Should I just move on?

[Been]

I want you to read what you wrote. Really read it. Think about it.

She LIED to your FACE. Let that slowly sink in.

First of all anyone that has to call someone in front of you to tell them its over is bad. And then to lie about it is even worse.

I mean what was that conversation like? I could see her convincing you to take her back and trying to prove how serious she I about getting you back by calling him in front of you to drive the point home. Brother do you really think that low of yourself to have to have a girl tell a man that they can't have sex anymore because she wants to be with you?? That conversation should have never taken place because if she really and truly loved you their wouldn't have been a need for that.

He's a fling. He's something that she has created in her mind that in reality won't work out in the real world. But ask yourself what are you then to her? An option. Your expendable to her.

[rickwman]

I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Honesty and understanding each other's expectations are very central to an honest and trusting relationship. Maybe you are seeing 'red flags' that are warning about your future with her. Have you spoken with a counselor, pastor or minister that can offer you wise and long-term, effective advise? Don't fill your mind with guilt, condemnation, judgement or unforgiveness. It's poison! I'll pray and stand with you that your future is bright with the woman that fulfills your needs and may your girlfriend experience peace as well.