SoulflowerChloe Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 (edited) Hello everyone. I walked away from my ex whom I had been associated with for almost 6 years, two months ago after he didn't want a relationship. I have been in nc since then. It has been difficult but I am progressing. Outside of that aspect of my life, I am in a very tight space in my life with money. I will be starting 3 jobs soon which all require that I purchase non-slip shoes. I really cant afford them right now. My ex works at a shoe store and receives a hefty discount. I am tempted to ask if I could use his discount, but I really don't want to come off as using him. Im just trying to be as resourceful as I can. I have no family support and I have exhausted my other friends. I know that there are chances that he: will not respondwill say no What should I do? Edited May 29, 2015 by SoulflowerChloe Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Hello everyone. I walked away from my ex whom I had been associated with for almost 6 years, two months ago after he didn't want a relationship. I have been in nc since then. It has been difficult but I am progressing. Outside of that aspect of my life, I am in a very tight space in my life with money. I will be starting 3 jobs soon which all require that I purchase non-slip shoes. I really cant afford them right now. My ex works at a shoe store and receives a hefty discount. I am tempted to ask if I could use his discount, but I really don't want to come off as using him. Im just trying to be as resourceful as I can. I have no family support and I have exhausted my other friends. I know that there are chances that he: will not respondwill say no What should I do? How about you don't bother buying the shoes from there and not contact him? That sounds like the best option. I'm sure you could find a fairly non expensive option elsewhere. By the way, you are using him if you contact him for that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Nope, nope, nope... Don't go there. Start with the Goodwill or Salvation Army. You can find some non-slip shoes for $5.00 or $10.00 that will suffice until you get a paycheck or two under your belt. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Find other means. That's a lame reason to break No Contact. Sell some stuff, save some money, go with the shoes you have until you can afford the ones you want. Or use a credit card and pay it off when you have the cash. This is really convuluted reason to break No Contact and it's definitely using him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SoulflowerChloe Posted May 29, 2015 Author Share Posted May 29, 2015 How about you don't bother buying the shoes from there and not contact him? That sounds like the best option. I'm sure you could find a fairly non expensive option elsewhere. By the way, you are using him if you contact him for that. The place he works is an extremely inexpensive shoe store. But I'll figure it out. You are right. Link to post Share on other sites
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 He may get an ego stroke if you break NC to talk to him about this, and may not even answer altogether. I wouldn't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SoulflowerChloe Posted May 29, 2015 Author Share Posted May 29, 2015 Nope, nope, nope... Don't go there. Start with the Goodwill or Salvation Army. You can find some non-slip shoes for $5.00 or $10.00 that will suffice until you get a paycheck or two under your belt. Thank you for the suggestion, I didnt even think of the thrift store. Link to post Share on other sites
minime13 Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Hello everyone. I walked away from my ex whom I had been associated with for almost 6 years, two months ago after he didn't want a relationship. I have been in nc since then. It has been difficult but I am progressing. Outside of that aspect of my life, I am in a very tight space in my life with money. I will be starting 3 jobs soon which all require that I purchase non-slip shoes. I really cant afford them right now. My ex works at a shoe store and receives a hefty discount. I am tempted to ask if I could use his discount, but I really don't want to come off as using him. Im just trying to be as resourceful as I can. I have no family support and I have exhausted my other friends. I know that there are chances that he: will not respondwill say no What should I do? You don't need a favor from your ex. You have found an opportunity to try to make legitimate contact with him. Find some cheap shoes that will work until you can afford better ones. Don't think of your ex as a life line for anything, anymore. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kasop Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 You are setting yourself up. You have come this far why break nc over a pair of shoes. Thats ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted May 29, 2015 Share Posted May 29, 2015 Nope, nope, nope... Don't go there. Start with the Goodwill or Salvation Army. You can find some non-slip shoes for $5.00 or $10.00 that will suffice until you get a paycheck or two under your belt. I agree. I would absolutely NOT ask my ex to do this for me, especially if we haven't spoken in two months. Try the Goodwill or another second hand or thrift store as CarrieT suggested. You're bound to find something there for cheap without needing to resort to asking your ex. Link to post Share on other sites
SLee Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 My ex also works at a place where I can get free tickets to stuff. In the relationship it was great and super convenient. After the break up he told me I could still ask him for tickets and that it'd be no problem. I made the mistake of asking him once and went. It was HORRIBLY awkward and I refused to make that mistake ever again. He also was a really tech savvy guy so I could always ask him if I had a technology problem. Is it a pain in the butt now that I have to go to different people or to the tech place at my university? YES, especially after years of not having to do that. But it's really for the best. My point is, in the long run, this is not a huge inconvenience to your life. It's not a life or death situation where he is the only person out of 7 billion to help you out. Someday, you won't even remember this. I would suggest checking out eBay (decent and NEW shoes for cheap, I do it all the time) or local thrift stores, as others have suggested. Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 Terrible idea. Like really really bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted May 30, 2015 Share Posted May 30, 2015 I'd rather go without than asking an ex for a favour. He will not be my hero for a pair of shoes, there are other ways. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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