love2ride Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 I want my ex back, I love her and miss her. One of the reasons she gave me for breaking up cause she didn't think I would marry her. Should I write her explaining that I ****ed up and want to marry her and make it happen?? We are in NC at the moment Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 We want what we can't have. If you didn't want to marry her during the relationship, it was for a reason. Focus on finding that reason, that will be your key to getting over her. An engagement shouldn't be used to save a failing relationship! Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author love2ride Posted November 23, 2014 Author Share Posted November 23, 2014 No I did i just nave made it a priority Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 I wouldn't. There's a a strong possibility she just used that as an excuse. Therefore, if you try that route now, it will just blow up in your face... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Take a breath, man. You're all over the place with her. I'd suggest leaving this idea for a week or just never send it at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Xidion Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 I want my ex back, I love her and miss her. One of the reasons she gave me for breaking up cause she didn't think I would marry her. Should I write her explaining that I ****ed up and want to marry her and make it happen?? We are in NC at the moment Why wasn't it a priority to you at the time? think about that and you may find your answer. What you're going through right now is the feeling of rejection. Embrace the pain. Feel it. Cry.. punch a pillow. I'm going through the same thing and even though my ex was talking to other guys.. part of me wants her back. Why? Because I am used to being around her. You never want to make the decision to want someone back just because you are used to having them around. You will get through this. The worst part is that it just takes time. Just take it day by day. hour by hour.. minute by minute. Link to post Share on other sites
jackinthebox1 Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Letters are the kiss of death. If there was any chance she is going to come back, that letter will make sure it never happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 Do not send the letter man. Just don't. If you want to express your desire to marry her, why wouldn't you say it in person? A letter isn't going to solve anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author love2ride Posted November 24, 2014 Author Share Posted November 24, 2014 lol so i did with flowers and I got a text "Its over its just not healthy" Man it's done, I gotta get over this chick Link to post Share on other sites
Xidion Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 lol so i did with flowers and I got a text "Its over its just not healthy" Man it's done, I gotta get over this chick Bro.. go extreme NC. you will be fine in time. Promise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author love2ride Posted November 24, 2014 Author Share Posted November 24, 2014 Thanks, I'm so sick of feeling like **** and wanting her back **** I'm so done with this ****!! Link to post Share on other sites
jackinthebox1 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 How can u come on here advice and not only ignore that but send flowers! You couldn't make yourself look any less attractive now. Please do nothing from this point. Relationships end every day. You aren't the first you won't be the last but don't spend another minute making a fool out of yourself for someone who doesn't care Link to post Share on other sites
Xidion Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 (edited) Thanks, I'm so sick of feeling like **** and wanting her back **** I'm so done with this ****!! There is really only one way to get a girl back if it's really something you want to try... There is risk of it not working and setting you back in your progress. But the best way is to go complete NC for 30-40 days. Dissappear. After thos 30 days are up.. send her a text saying.. "Hey! you know.. us breaking up was definitely for the best, but i would really hate to lose you as a friend" After that you just takes things really slow and NEVER talk about the old relationship.. that relationship is dead. It also shows her that you're capable of moving on and not be needy. Girls hate that. It's about learning what things you did wrong in the relationship and trying to get her attraction back by being friends.. setting times to just hang out and have fun. It's not the best choice because if it doesn't work... you will be back to a depressed state.. but that's really the only way. Right now is way too soon. Edited November 24, 2014 by Xidion Link to post Share on other sites
Author love2ride Posted November 24, 2014 Author Share Posted November 24, 2014 Ya no I could never do that. Its over 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Xidion Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 Ya no I could never do that. Its over There's more fish in the sea man. Start lifting weights and excercising.. That's what I did after I got dumped. I'm getting my confidence back and going to look great and wait for someone great. Also.. exercising releases endorphins in you that make you feel good. Trust me man.. i was as low as low can get.. but I didn't allow myself to stay there. You can do this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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