jackinthebox1 Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Ok obviously its better to be around people but i was reading how men and women cope with relationships today. Men (i am male) will use casual sex, drinking, going out to get over it but its actually detrimental long term to their recovery. Women will tend to stay in and grive and get over things faster. I want to go out tonight. But i don't want to see her. I dont want to get drunk and be in the place we used to go to and i feel like i'll wake up tomorrow just feeling worse. I really just want to accept and get the grieving done asap. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Seeker12 Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Socialise, just get yourself around good people, find a few mates who you can confide in and speak to them about everything, and literally grieve, meaning cry etc. then ask yourself is it fine to put yourself through all this mental torture? 1-2 weeks from now you should hit some good recovery. Link to post Share on other sites
Mi7522 Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Go out with your mates but don't bring them down with your heartache. Enjoy their company and before you know it you won't be thinking about it. No crying! Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Everybody gets through heartache at a different pace, men and women alike. It's all in your personality make up and how close you were in the relationship that will determine this. Go out and have a good time. You don't have to hook up with anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jackinthebox1 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Share Posted November 1, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I went out, forced myself. Spent the first hour telling my friend i was coping terribly, the next hour IM'ing my other friend about hte situation while he gave me advice. There really is no other advice, i just wanted someone there to vent to, it really does help and is why girls have a better time emotionally Was gonna go home but went to another bar at midnight and had fun. Two girls gave me their numbers, i saw an ex who was all over me, but ultimately i just want to be alone for a while. But i can feel myself coming back, slowly. Its been 3 days so not bad! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 It's only been 3 days. That is not a proper mourning period in any universe. The fact that you got two numbers & had an EX fawn on you should be an ego boost. Go out. Stay home. Do whatever you think will give you the most peace. Link to post Share on other sites
Seeker12 Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 JITB trust me, as someone in NC probably 8 days ahead of you, youll hav your up and down days/hours and minutes, its nice that girls are giving you numbers etc. but right now youre going through a mental process of healing, something which your body needs to do otherwise it will all crop back up again, unfortunately we arent wired with a delete button! But as mentioned, do what you think gives you ease, i find sometimes socialising gives me a helluva alot of confidence, but then also short walks on my own, gym on my own, all gives me the same kind of boost and happiness. Its a process i guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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