NC right method?

[Weezy]

I broke up with my GF a about 5 weeks ago.. She was hurt, called me back around a week later applogizing for what she'd done and asking if we were getting back togeather, to which I responded "not right now". After serveral weeks with limited contact I called her and asked to get togeather as I had decided if she was willing to do some counseling with me and have some long talks to fix some of our problems, that I would give it another shot. She said she had "plans that night" but that we'd talk the next day. So instantly I'm thinking.. uh ohh, plans must be with another guy.

 

The next day I get an email saying she can't believe I wanted to talk, that she had taken my words literaly and that she had been trying to move on. She said she didn't know what she wanted but she needed more time to think about what she wanted before we talked.

 

I told her that's totally understandable.

 

So the weekend goes by and she sends me a text asking if we could get togeather and talk the next day.

 

The talk. We just BS for about 30 minutes and then she says well, what did you want to talk about? I told her that I had thought of some ways to work things out, but that judging by her email, it didn't sound like she knew what she wanted. She confirmed that she still didn't have any idea if she wanted to get back togeather or not, which I was a little peeved at since she had like 5 days to think after my telling her I wanted to talk. So I tell her that I think we can make it work for the long haul, that I'm willing to do consuling to fix it. There are times in the conversation where she is talking about us being back togeather, and times where she made comments like, I think for us to work, we need a fresh start, but a fresh start isn't possible. There was quite a bit of tension in the conversation as she's complain about something that hurt her, then I'd come back with something that hurt me.

 

After talking for an hour or so, she says she needs to go to bed cause she has to get up early for work. As we are leaving she says, "Well thanks for the talk, give me a hug, I still don't know what I want." I say, we'll your kind of telling me what you want by not saying what you want. We hug, and that that.

 

That was 2 weeks ago, I haven't contacted her, she hasn't contacted me.

 

So naturally now I'm thinking, well maybe I should have tried to hang out again after our talk, but my natural reaction is that if she doesn't know what she wants, and she knows I'm willing to work at it and that I think we can fix things for the long haul, then by trying to hang out with her I would only push her away.