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Well I came to this forum because I'm pretty pissed off and sad. And reading some of the horror stories of other peoples lives I realise (if I hadn't already) that I'm pretty well off. I'm 34, degree-educated, healthy, well-travelled, and earn good money. My work drags sometimes, but everyone there likes me. When I'm in a good mood I go out a fair bit and can joke and make people laugh as well as anyone. But starting any kind of relationship just seems impossible for me. And I've realised from what some women told me (not feeling sorry for me) that I'm actually OK looking, if I smile, I always get smiles back. I can get what seems to be a cool conversation going. But I'm just stuck. I even get phone numbers, they don't pick up (twice the last few months). There's never any follow-up. Some of my friends tell me I'm too keen, others tell me I don't make enough effort. I fully understand that women are just into confidence, confidence, confidence. Yeah, but it comes and goes, and seems beyond my ability to just manufacture. Also, I had a crappy childhood, my parents blamed me for a lot of their problems, and told me nearly every day how worthless I was. Anyone got any hints? Anyone as old as me still stuck with this kind of stuff? Yeah, get over it. sure, but HOW?

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you seem to be fairly happy about yourself. I think that sometimes we suffer from baggage that our family sticks us with. I suffer from the same thing and while on paper I am great, in practice i can use alot of work. I think alot of it is just trying to figure out what really is wrong with you and realizing that making yourself better is a work in progress. If you are serious a counselor can help. I don't go to one anymore, but I really do think they helped.

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