billybobby Posted May 8, 2006 Share Posted May 8, 2006 I'm a good looking guy who has no problems meeting girls. I'm smart and funny, and I'm very kind to others so I would say my social circle is rather large. The problem is I'm too shy to try to move forward from the initial meeting. I try to read everything in order to know for sure if she reciprocates the interest, which you all know doesn't work. Here's my latest quandry: I see this girl in a group setting and I'm instantly attracted to her. Never really got to talk one on one with her, so I figured that I would probably never see her again and I'd fall in love with someone else tomorrow. To my surprise, she asked someone else for my e-mail address and I got an e-mail from her soon after. We have been talking ever since, and she has given me lots of good vibes I guess...and while I'm playing it cool, on the inside I'm terrified that I'm reading everything wrong. She told me I'm cute, she seemed to be very willing to do something together, and she is inquisitive about what I like (movies, etc). But I'm scared to ask for her number and we have yet to do anything...we have plans soon but I'm sure she'll cancel. She never sees this insecure side...she sees the cocky, funny guy who is also a good person. But the problem is the difference between men and women. If I was a pretty girl (which she definitely is!) talking to someone that I thought was cute, funny, etc, I'd be jumping all over it. All she would have to do is say, "Dude,i like you" and I'd say, "Ok, let's go!" But just reading e-mail every day it's hard to tell what she sees in me. I know, I know, she's probably thinking the same thing, right? You women need to be more assertive and just tell us idiots what you want. It would make all of our lives much easier! Ladies, let me have it...your best advice to a lovesick schmuck. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted May 9, 2006 Share Posted May 9, 2006 What more does she have to do?! Does she have to shout from the rooftop that she's interested in you? Geez. Cocky and funny is the reason she bothered to find out your e-mail address and contract you. Women rarely do this. She's interested. But, you need to cut out all the back and forth e-mailing. Save the chit chat for the date! Link to post Share on other sites
oceanlove_gx Posted May 9, 2006 Share Posted May 9, 2006 What more does she have to do?! Does she have to shout from the rooftop that she's interested in you? Geez. Cocky and funny is the reason she bothered to find out your e-mail address and contract you. Women rarely do this. She's interested. But, you need to cut out all the back and forth e-mailing. Save the chit chat for the date! Don't guess what she is thinking, u have to guide her to the right direction. Sometimes far, somtimes close, call her but don't speak, women need tricks to be entertained and surprised, the thing is that if u really like her, and ask her out. But don't wait for girls to ask u out man:o Link to post Share on other sites
Author billybobby Posted May 9, 2006 Author Share Posted May 9, 2006 What more does she have to do?! Does she have to shout from the rooftop that she's interested in you? Geez. Cocky and funny is the reason she bothered to find out your e-mail address and contract you. Women rarely do this. She's interested. But, you need to cut out all the back and forth e-mailing. Save the chit chat for the date! i have to actually get her on a date first....i really want to get her on the phone but I'm afraid to ask for her number. I suck at life, lol Link to post Share on other sites
funkify Posted May 9, 2006 Share Posted May 9, 2006 Just do it, ask her in your next email if she would be interested in a movie/coffee etc. If you've been emailing back and forth you would know what she likes. I guarantee you money she will be delighted. She's probably been hanging out for you to ask her for ages! Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 9, 2006 Share Posted May 9, 2006 i have to actually get her on a date first....i really want to get her on the phone but I'm afraid to ask for her number. I suck at life, lol Being a girl that has dated alot of different guys and has alot of guy friends I would have to say that you're kinda giving her the run around. just tell it to her straight, she's trying to tell you that she's interested but trying not to come on too strong. Also I think that you might be afraid of rejection which alot of guys are, but it seems to me that she has hinted at liking you and wanting to get to know you better, but not by just email. It's also hard in emails to show emotion, so yah you (and her) probably are confused of what each other wants. But I would suggest to you to take the initiative and ask her out, and please ask for her phone number because emailing to me is just like text messaging back and forth-you don't really get anywhere and unless you're trying to hide your emotion behind typing, like I said call her already!!! She's probably anxiously waiting for you to ask her since she already took a chance and asked for your email in the first place, now it's your turn boy, just don't beat around the bush, because she might lose interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author billybobby Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 I guess it's dumb to be afraid to ask for her number...she is the one who contacted me in the first place, right? I still wish she would just volunteer it! lol...wish me luck Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 I guess it's dumb to be afraid to ask for her number...she is the one who contacted me in the first place, right? I still wish she would just volunteer it! lol...wish me luck Just ask her if you can call her sometime, she won't bite...over the computer lol. sry I had to throw that in hehe Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author billybobby Posted May 11, 2006 Author Share Posted May 11, 2006 Just ask her if you can call her sometime, she won't bite...over the computer lol. sry I had to throw that in hehe Good luck! lol...I would have said the same thing. So I did that. I expect her to dodge the question I think I'm too nice. Wish me luck... Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 lol...I would have said the same thing. So I did that. I expect her to dodge the question I think I'm too nice. Wish me luck... You must be smitten by this girl, because it seems like this girl makes you nervous, well don't be!!! And plus you have to be getting a lil antsy to be with her in person right? Or are you nervous about being with her in person? I would say do something fast or she might start to lose interest, but if you did give her your number well at least you got that out of the way! And I don't think you're alone on this one because it seems like she could be shy too, especially if she asked for your email. I've never asked for a guy's email just their number but I love talking on the phone and I'm not shy. So with that said, yah I think she might be shy too, don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with asking for someone's email but everyone's different. After awhile though you're not going to get very far if you two keep emailing back and forth, and not eventually talking on the phone and hanging out. But like I said good luck you'll be fine! Link to post Share on other sites
Author billybobby Posted May 11, 2006 Author Share Posted May 11, 2006 I'm not nervous to be around her at all. We have already discussed doing a couple of things. This is just a really unique situation. Kinda freaky. Like, "Holy crap, did that really just happen?" No lie, this really happened...spotted her in a group, with a friend the next day talking about "that girl yesterday" at the exact moment I received an e-mail from her. Crazy. Anyway, yeah I'm nervous because I have had a couple of strange experiences recently on the dating trail. I'm really not so concerned with dating this person at the moment as I am just progressing, getting to know them better, etc. Dating can come later. Thus far, she's found me via e-mail, told me I'm cute, seems happy to go do something. I swear, if I can't even get her on the phone, I effin' quit dating, period. Hopefully you're right about the shy part. I can see that in her. But I'm harmless as a kitten so she shouldn't be nervous about me. Well, still waiting for a response. I'm just worried that I waited too long now. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 "I'm a good looking guy who has no problems meeting girls. I'm smart and funny, and I'm very kind to others so I would say my social circle is rather large. Really, if that was so true then why are you here so worked up on one girl. I LOL at you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author billybobby Posted May 12, 2006 Author Share Posted May 12, 2006 "I'm a good looking guy who has no problems meeting girls. I'm smart and funny, and I'm very kind to others so I would say my social circle is rather large. Really, if that was so true then why are you here so worked up on one girl. I LOL at you! haha...hey, fair enough. I don't blame you for asking that question. #1 I'm VERY picky...it's a fault. I'm not pining over just any old girl #2 A little personal matter that kind of puts me at a disadvantage from the start...I don't really want to divulge that, but it's a legit concern. ANYWAY...just thought you all should know I'm wearing a big grin right now. :D ;) You all give great advice vi_pn_babe25, you were right Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 12, 2006 Share Posted May 12, 2006 haha...hey, fair enough. I don't blame you for asking that question. #1 I'm VERY picky...it's a fault. I'm not pining over just any old girl #2 A little personal matter that kind of puts me at a disadvantage from the start...I don't really want to divulge that, but it's a legit concern. ANYWAY...just thought you all should know I'm wearing a big grin right now. :D ;) You all give great advice vi_pn_babe25, you were right Don't be worried about the phone thing, it'll just get easier the more you talk to her! I'm happy to hear that you're happy I'm glad to have helped you in your in situation, anytime so keep me up to date on how things turn out! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted May 13, 2006 Share Posted May 13, 2006 i like my best friend shes a girl. she seems to like me cuz shes always playing with my hands and laying on my shoulder in class but she tells me that she likes her ex and wants to get back with him. i dont know does she like me or does she like her ex or does she like both of us? Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 13, 2006 Share Posted May 13, 2006 i like my best friend shes a girl. she seems to like me cuz shes always playing with my hands and laying on my shoulder in class but she tells me that she likes her ex and wants to get back with him. i dont know does she like me or does she like her ex or does she like both of us? uh i would say find another girl? Link to post Share on other sites
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