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I just started seeing a lady who thinks I'm filthy rich. I'm not filthy rich but was glad to give her that impression.

We slept together once, we have a date this weekend.

 

Although the lady wants me for my apparent wealth, she's still a decent enough person that I don't want to hurt.

 

I need an exit strategy. I hope she 'll dump me eventually when she finds that I'm not the big spender. Meantime I need to ease her toward that realization. Our next date is designed to make me seem wealthy, after that I want to stop with such displays (for her only).

 

How can I (without being mean) send subtle indications that I'm not her pile of gold.?

 

Note to Gold Pile haters. Your advice will help her have a soft landing.

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LucreziaBorgia

Seriously, the best strategy is honesty. You can spin 'honest' however you like to work in your favor, though:

 

"Look, there is something I need to talk to you about. I may have given you a wrong impression about just how much money I have. I am not as wealthy as you think I am, and I did this only because I wanted to impress you. In fact, I'm just an average guy with not a lot of extra cash to spend. I realize now that I've made a big mistake with this, and it would probably be best if we didn't see each other anymore."

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I like LB's advice.. But you might not want to let it out that you don't have any money yet as she might know some of your future dates. ( it's a small world )

 

You can just say I'd like to talk to you about something and tell her that just don't feel it's going to work out or that you feel that it's not going to go anywhere because you don't have alot in common ..

 

all you have to do is pick a reason that puts the blame on you not her and she should be okay with it ..

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Originally posted by Gold Pile

I need an exit strategy.

GP, you already banged her....its now time to move on. Cancel your date with her this coming wknd and don't contact her again. She'll get the msg. :)

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whichwayisup

Be honest with her like LB said.

 

This is why so many people jumped on you from the start. You never know how you're gonna feel about somebody and to start off with a whopper that you are loaded is hard to downplay. There is going to be abit of hurt either way. Just do it soon because the longer you wait the more she may like you and become attached, if she isn't already.

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ReluctantRomeo
Originally posted by Craig

And either hide your car or save up $$ to repair the inevitable keying it one day will receive. :)

 

I'm on my way over right now to slash the tyres... :laugh:

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MWC_LifeBeginsAt40
Originally posted by Gold Pile

I just started seeing a lady who thinks I'm filthy rich. I'm not filthy rich but was glad to give her that impression.

We slept together once, we have a date this weekend.

 

Although the lady wants me for my apparent wealth, she's still a decent enough person that I don't want to hurt.

 

I need an exit strategy. I hope she 'll dump me eventually when she finds that I'm not the big spender. Meantime I need to ease her toward that realization. Our next date is designed to make me seem wealthy, after that I want to stop with such displays (for her only).

 

How can I (without being mean) send subtle indications that I'm not her pile of gold.?

 

Note to Gold Pile haters. Your advice will help her have a soft landing.

 

If you want to ease her toward the realization, then I don't think outright telling her you're not wealthy is what you want to do, am I right? Just be a cheapo on your date.

 

Why not drop subtle/not-so-subtle hints now such as always complaining about how much something costs. Stop at the gas station to fill up, with her in the car and bitch about the price of a fill. If she expects you to take her somewhere fancy, just say nah they charge wayyy too much for what you get...let's go to burger king instead! or something like that. Buy her a wilted flower or a cheap bouquet from yesterday's supply at the flower shop.

 

If she really isn't after your wealth, then she won't mind your complaining and cheapness.

 

But I also like the suggestion to cancel the date and not call her.

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Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo

I'm on my way over right now to slash the tyres... :laugh:

 

the tires of the brand new BMW prop.. !:laugh:

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elijahBailey
Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40

Stop at the gas station to fill up, with her in the car and bitch about the price of a fill.

 

...let's go to burger king instead! or something like that.

 

Buy her a wilted flower or a cheap bouquet from yesterday's supply at the flower shop.

 

:lmao: but I actually think it might work...

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I'm with alpha on this one. Just skip out and cancel the date. You can tell her everything, or you can say nothing at all and let her get the picture. I'd say do the honest approach, but that's only if you really care about her feelings. Well, do you? If so, then maybe honesty's the best policy. If not, like I said, you banged her - tell her to hit the road.

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Your already full of crap... Why not keep going with it? Just tell her about the lawsuit that will most likely force you to file for bankruptcy. Maybe one of your prize horses got loose and injured some people.

 

"Sorry I can't make our date this weekend, I have to meet with my lawyers...."

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Canceling the date is so pedestrian and does not, to the ruse, do justice.

 

1. Tell her you are part of the witness protection plan and your handlers forbid you to see her again because someone that knows her is part of the organized crime family that wants your head.

 

2. Tell her you secretly work for the Office of Intra-Homeland Intelligence (fake) and that your boss forbids you to see her again because of what she did in her junior year in high school.

 

3. Tell her you've had better sex with the Sears catalog than with her and you just want a friendly parting.

 

4. Tell her you have an evil twin brother that pretends to be you to seduce beautiful women and then leaves the mess for you to clean up.

 

Come on GP be creative!!

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You should come clean with her now.

 

If you are not able to be a jerk you should stop playing jerky games. What's up with all these wannabe Casanovas, jerks, machos...

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...or maybe your parents have threatened to cut off your trust fund if you continue dating "comon people."

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Imagine that! Having sex with a real live person who has feelings is a little different from a bogus plan to bang and hurt imaginary non-humans, isn't it? Real individuals aren't as neat and tidy as your silly little plans.

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Thanks to most, especially MWC 40.

 

They'll be no coming clean. I like the cheap approach, except it might get around, and ruin the GP image.

 

Maybe I'll act offended that she likes me for my money.

As far as this weekend, I have every reason to expect sex, so I won't cancel.

 

I just want to play it right to let her down easy...when time comes.

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Stop playing with another person's feelings. You seem to get a thrill playing this game to deceive women and used them for sex and then leave them high and dry. As much as those gold-diggers seem like they deserve it, they are nevertheless human beings, so one night with her is enough. Stop prolonging it and end it. Look at yourself in the mirror brother.

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GP, you already banged her....its now time to move on. Cancel your date with her this coming wknd and don't contact her again. She'll get the msg. :)

 

Good advice. You got what you wanted. Why have another date? Do you need to ease your conscience? Just let her go now and she won't be hurt, or do you want to hit it one last time...:rolleyes:

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Had good time with plenty of sex too. I mentioned that I'm very slow to trust unwealthy women, so I never lavish on them...for years.

 

Not an official break-up, but I think she's cooled down. I won't likely ask for another date.

Looking for next friend now.

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GoldPile - i do not think that you should be honest with her!! You have not been yet - so why start now??

 

Actually - i would ask her for a loan of severl $100K to help you finance some ventures. Then ... if she gives you the dough - spend this money on other women to give them the impression that you are wealthy.

 

Stick to your MO! It seems to be working for you.

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