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Old 12th April 2019, 7:28 PM   #1
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Where would I go to meet guys alone?

Iím in my 30ís, I want to venture out to meet guys where they approach me. Like last Saturday night for example I was driving downtown and saw a bunch of cute guys walking in a group Iím assuming they were headed to the bars. Also, I posted that I met a guy at a meetup event-however it didnít go as planned like him asking my number.

I kind of want to meet guys as friends but I want guys to approach, and take me out. Even if Iím not dating I would like to have some fun. I donít want to do online dating- they never work for me.

I just want to get hit on not viewed as a ďgreat personĒ friend zone if that makes sense. I like clubs, but only if itís packed. Coffee places no-guys really donít approach me there
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Old 12th April 2019, 7:35 PM   #2
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I just want to get hit on not viewed as a ďgreat personĒ
Just go to bars.
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Old 12th April 2019, 7:39 PM   #3
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Hmm..yeah bars seem to be the best bet.
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Just go to bars.
high end bars to be more specific. you will find more college educated single men there who have their act together.
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Old 12th April 2019, 8:16 PM   #5
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Go sit at the bar. Guys have to come up and say excuse me to get past you to get a drink and may strike up a conversation that way.
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Go sit at the bar. Guys have to come up and say excuse me to get past you to get a drink and may strike up a conversation that way.
Iím a bit shy so Iím not the type to go up to a guy to ask a question. I want to go on a Saturday night when itís busy. My plan is to go to a bar where live music is playing-thereís a piano bar/band that plays-I figure itís less awkward than just sitting at a bar alone at least Iíll be looking at a stage. How long should I sit at the bar? 2 hours tops? If no guy guy approaches me, should I just leave and go to a club nearby-2 hours tops there too?
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Iím a bit shy so Iím not the type to go up to a guy to ask a question. I want to go on a Saturday night when itís busy. My plan is to go to a bar where live music is playing-thereís a piano bar/band that plays-I figure itís less awkward than just sitting at a bar alone at least Iíll be looking at a stage. How long should I sit at the bar? 2 hours tops? If no guy guy approaches me, should I just leave and go to a club nearby-2 hours tops there too?
a lot of guys are slow on the uptake so you may want to sit at the bar alone for a few hours (2-3). it will take time for them to figure out you are by yourself. and don't drink too much because that is a killer.
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Old 13th April 2019, 1:39 AM   #8
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At certain bars you only need to show up and within 2 minutes a guy will come up to you. And these guys don't even care if you're with another guy. Here's a tip: male bartenders seem to know which guys are good. If a guy comes up to talk to you, look at the male bartender, you can tell if he approves.
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Old 13th April 2019, 1:49 AM   #9
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I kind of want to meet guys as friends but I want guys to approach, and take me out. Even if Iím not dating I would like to have some fun.
Guys aren't going to approach you for friendship.
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Old 13th April 2019, 4:19 AM   #10
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Recreational activities. Yoga/Vollyball/Judo/Pool/Bowling.
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Old 13th April 2019, 4:51 AM   #11
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Yes - recreational activities will allow you to get to know a guy first rather than have him hit on you straight away.
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At certain bars you only need to show up and within 2 minutes a guy will come up to you. And these guys don't even care if you're with another guy. Here's a tip: male bartenders seem to know which guys are good. If a guy comes up to talk to you, look at the male bartender, you can tell if he approves.
what if it's a girl bartender? what then?
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Old 14th April 2019, 11:27 AM   #13
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Recreational activities. Yoga/Vollyball/Judo/Pool/Bowling.

I agree with this. I played in a pool league for over a year as a) I love playing pool and b) it was a great way to meet women. I also go on hiking and fishing groups in the summer; it gets me out of the house and there's generally available women there.
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Old 15th April 2019, 11:43 AM   #14
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what if it's a girl bartender? what then?
Then no luck.
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Old 15th April 2019, 1:20 PM   #15
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Recreational activities. Yoga/Vollyball/Judo/Pool/Bowling.
I could try yoga, but 99% are women. Iím not a fan of judo, I suck at pool...bowling, maybe.
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