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Old 4th April 2019, 10:53 PM   #16
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Single people can be happy. Problem is that no one is there to see it.
Ha! Good point!
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Old 5th April 2019, 11:26 AM   #17
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People can be single and happy.

People can be single and unhappy.

Human beings were designed for companionship, so it's not weird that some people don't like to be single.

People can be in a relationship and happy.

People can be in a relationship and unhappy.


Many, like myself have not found the right person for a long-term relationship.
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Old 5th April 2019, 12:23 PM   #18
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I'm completely comfortable being single. I enjoy being in a good relationship but I don't need it.
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Old 6th April 2019, 8:39 AM   #19
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I think that companionship matters for a variety of reasons: togetherness, having someone to confide in, romance, having someone to lean on, etc
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Old 6th April 2019, 6:59 PM   #20
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For me being single is no problem. Dating is another thing. I think I am a little bit more happy in a relationship when I am getting physical affection. I feel restless without it. So for me. Until then. I will always lean towards being in romantic relationship over just being single.
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Old 6th April 2019, 7:02 PM   #21
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Ha! Good point!



Haaa yeah , that's a funny one really and how trues too actually.
l remember thinking to myself a few times back when , shame really , people can have no idea how l live because there's no one else here to see it .
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Old 6th April 2019, 7:07 PM   #22
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I think many can be single and happy, but they need to have a certain personality to be truly happy.
I think many tolerate single-hood and whilst they are not crying every day over being alone , they would in a perfect world prefer to have a partner to share their life with.
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Old 6th April 2019, 7:12 PM   #23
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I think many can be single and happy, but they need to have a certain personality to be truly happy.
I think many tolerate single-hood and whilst they are not crying every day over being alone , they would in a perfect world prefer to have a partner to share their life with.
It totally comes to personality, busyness, and sex drive.
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Old 6th April 2019, 7:14 PM   #24
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I think that companionship matters for a variety of reasons: togetherness, having someone to confide in, romance, having someone to lean on, etc

Yeah , of course it's a no brainer really. Even most of the animal kindom have a mate in life, but eh , some do just eat and run though too.
Funny really , same with humans.

Personally l can well understand people choosing to stay single though it's often so much easier in so many ways. But l can understand most people preferring a mate in life too.
Me l def; mostly prefer being with someone, but l also have always struggled with it a bit too, even now , 50s , l still do.
Space l need and still hating having to answer to someone, or explain what your doing , things like that l do still struggle with. But if your living as two , even no matter how easy going things are, stuff like that is still just mostly unavoidable.
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Old 6th April 2019, 7:55 PM   #25
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i think you have to love your life whether single or together....might seem funny coming from me or hypocritical considering i have tried to end mine more than once.....i haven't wanted to end my life over loneliness though....i recharge my batteries with alone time.....my reasons were all about worth and not feeling like i deserve to or should be here....
but enough of that

i know we get one chance just one to live our life on earth.....its a gift ....and we should love our lives passionately...to live with passion and gratefulness...regardless of single or coupled...status....i think when we start to covet what others have be that a person or object or money or whatever...is when our lives ...becomes less lovely.....less happy...deb
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Old 6th April 2019, 9:56 PM   #26
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i think when we start to covet what others have be that a person or object or money or whatever...is when our lives ...becomes less lovely.....less happy...deb
I get that, but when a person is all alone, when they would prefer to be coupled up, it is difficult for them to find happiness elsewhere.
Lonely people have usually been through all the hobbies, the interests, the meeting up with friends, relying on family etc. but it doesn't fill the hole that anther person who loves only them would occupy...
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Old 6th April 2019, 11:41 PM   #27
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I get that, but when a person is all alone, when they would prefer to be coupled up, it is difficult for them to find happiness elsewhere.
Lonely people have usually been through all the hobbies, the interests, the meeting up with friends, relying on family etc. but it doesn't fill the hole that anther person who loves only them would occupy...
filling holes i understand..im a holey person.......i am simply full of holes..:0)..but....expectations of someone else to fill that empty hole in any person....i don't know if its a good start....i feel that having someone to love is like an external thing...a mountain rather than a hole..a couple who get together like two mountains hand in hand..side by side for centuries......impervious to all earth quakes.....enhanced by being together...stronger ...better..a battle front against holes forming....rather than fixing....but thats the poet in me...


i believe god made us all our own mountain to climb on.....ahem...stoppin here...could get a little cheeky...

you know the yin and yang i feel they are neither less or more apart..no holes to fill no gaps to cover....good as each other seperate albeit they would look a little lonely apart...but together...they become...something special....something ...meaningful ..together yin an dyang are a symbol of wholeness....and wholeness...si not fillign holes....its two external haves that come together...side by side.... to complete each other by enhancement..........deb

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Old 6th April 2019, 11:52 PM   #28
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Is this even a real thread? It feels like an attack on everyone. BUT............... It's human nature to be bonded to someone !! PERIOD !
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Old 6th April 2019, 11:54 PM   #29
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People can be single and happy.

People can be single and unhappy.

Human beings were designed for companionship, so it's not weird that some people don't like to be single.
Oh, and applause on this one too 👍🏻
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Old 7th April 2019, 8:29 AM   #30
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Of course, not everyone needs someone but I do think that in GENERAL
PEOPLE NEED PEOPLE
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